14 year old daughter using her mobile on the internet on a school nite til all hours

[mumandtwo]

Hello all! new to mumsnet... I take my daughter's laptop off her on school nights at 10pm, but just discovered she is using her mobile to go on facebook and tumblr til late at night which makes her so tired and grumpy in the morning. Is it going too far to take her mobile off her too at 10pm do you think? Or just take out her sim so she can still listen to music, but no internet maybe? Would appreciate your views, my ex says I would be making her a prisoner if I take her mobile off her.

OP your ex sounds a loon , i I think there is more stuff going on with him and your dd does she always run to her dad when she doesnt get her own way ,

Yea you're all right. BUT turns out she wasn't using the internet in the night at all!! It was my ex that told me that she was and when I looked at her facebook and tumblr with her, there were no late night posts at all! It seems that he just said that because I told him he was out of order for lettin her have the laptop til 11.30pm on a school night when she went to his the night before. He retaliated by saying, well she's on her mobile all night so maybe its you thats the bad parent. He also took her and her sister (aged 9) to a party recently and bought my 14 year 3 vodka's and they stayed out til 1.30am, he even managed to justify that and blame me - you can see why I divorced him!!! Have had to contact my solicitor now, I have really had enough of his behaviour affecting the girls in this negative way.......

mrsjay, yes she runs to dad when she doesn't get her own way. I tell him not to come as it's whats BEST for her, not what she wants but what is best and he just comes anyway. I have tried to stop it happening and actually last week for once he didn't come and the argument we were having just resloved itself naturally. He is a complete idiot and I have let him away with far too much since I left him. He's never paid any maintenance whilst working and signing on! I tried CSA once and he said if I pursued it he would get more custody of the kids and half of the child tax credit I get for them...Well, now the gloves are off and I've taken action all round this week, I'm not going to be walked all over anymore, especially now its affecting the girls so badly. Rant over!!!!