DD (age 15)'s BF (age 17) of a few months is, in my DH's words, "evasive". IMO, regardless of what he says, you never know what he's really thinking and his own mum agrees that he's "difficult to read".
She's very supportive of him going out with my DD and very welcoming. IMO she spoils DD's BF (and his sister) terribly (not with material things, but by waiting on them hand and foot basically).
Recently she asked DD's BF's father to move out of the family home. Which he did. She openly criticises him in front of DD's BF and seems to stoke his anger with his father and his decision to avoid contact with him.
I got the impression that the reason she's apparently so pleased that my DD's seeing her son is that neither he nor she have many friends. Which makes me suspicious. Maybe it's because IMO they're outspoken about people.
Also, she told me that she and her family are non-practising white witches and some of them have 'healing hands'!!! (I think DD's BF is embarrassed by this). And that she has a very poor relationship with her very troubled, consequently difficult sibling.
She asked my DD to go to her mum's recent funeral to "support" DD's BF which my DD did. BF cried on her shoulder and was profuse with his thanks for her going.
Very recently BF has chopped and changed arrangements with my DD. Once fairly last minute so that he could go on an organised outing with his classmates (which DD had originally encouraged him to go to anyway). She didn't mind and appreciates that he's had a tumultous two months.
She's just finished her (scottish) exams. His start this week and finish in a fortnight so she's not expecting to see him much before then and he told her he's going to take her out to dinner and a movie when they're done. She has other friends and interests anyway.
Mercifully, this tale is nearly done.....
My problem is that he's not straightforward with her, eg (in spite of being so busy) he invited her to his house yesterday - with the proviso that he'd got through enough study first. He subsequently texted her saying he was stressed out with all the study he had to do and would have to 'skip' their evening. (Which DD completely understood). But then during their evening texting when she asked him what he was doing (often he tells her he's "chilling") he told her he was at his archery club!
My DD hangs on his word IMO - he compliments her on her clothes etc, but he also makes grand claims like that he'll persuade his mum to include him on her car insurance when he passes his driving test so that he can drive my DD home, collect her for dates etc. (I'll believe it when I see it). DD seems to think he want's to drive MAINLY so he can take her out in the car... She's so innocent.
Advice or perspective would be very appreciated.