At what age do teenage boys stop being stroppy drama queens?

[alistron1]

DS1 is nearly 13 and currently is always on the verge of being histrionic. Stomping, shouting, swearing, door slamming etc over everything and anything.Today he had arranged to go to the cinema with a friend, but the friend was unable to go. Obviously DS1 is disappointed but he has been utterly vile all day.

He has also started to do this 'thing' when I remind him that his behaviour is less than desirable of 'shushing' me with the words 'hush woman' - I could kill the little buggar

When he's not being vile he is actually lovely. But this won't go on for too many years will it?!

I've got two teen DD's and thought that the hormonalness and general passive aggressive arseyness was teeth clenchingly irritating.

DS is now 20 and it has disappeared, thank God. Fourteen was a turning point, although it flared up again when he was stressed. The others aren't too bad, though.

20?!!

He is honestly just like 'kevin' from harry enfield. I can laugh about it MOST of the time, but on days like today I would trade him for a brace of toddlers.

14 was definitely a turning point, I don't think you've got that long to go. I know, it's the huffy sigh that really rules me up!

Ooh yes alistron I have a DS who is 13 in June. OMG the dramas over silly things would put a toddler to shame.

Together with forgetfulness, indecision and backchat.

When he asks me for something it has to be done immediately, when I ask him for something it doesn't work both ways.

He's quite lovely on a good day though.

Oh forgetfulness, you'd think that after nearly 9 years of school that he might have realised by now that he needs uniform, shoes and a bag every day. It seems to be a complete shock to him EVERY morning. Me: Have you got your blazer? Him: Blazer?! What blazer?

Everything is just 'so unfair' - Him: What's for dinner blud? Me: Spag Bol Him: That's soooo unfair

Annunziata, I am getting the feeling that you are gently trying to suggest that it will get worse before it gets better at 14?!! Thanks for the Make mine a large one, delivered by IV

'what's for dinner blud?' That's hilarious

Naahh, I think you're peaking just now. I mean, you've ticked off everything, doors, huffs, stomps, etc. At least he doesn't weep, DD1 used to cry at the drop of a hat.

I'm not sure there's any hope. (swigs )

DS is nearly 14 and I sometimes think he needs some prozac, he is sooo moody.

He gets wound up into a complete frenzy about something or nothing and me and dh are tearing our hair out. An hour later ds is just fine; teasing his sister and messing about, while we're still quivering wrecks.

Oh yes, chipmunksex. he gets the screaming abdabs, storms up stairs, flings himself on his bed screaming/crying/so unfairing...DP and I are then all worried and yet 5 minutes later he's hooting with laughter at 'adventure time'

Annunziata, I am now cliinging to your words about him peaking. The 'bludding' makes me lol. In the morning after I've been cruel enough to wake him up and have gone through the 7am histrionics I get greeted with a 'Whassup Blud?' I assume that means 'Good Morning Mother'

Does he watch Russell Howard and screech with laughter at it?

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DS2 prefers 'What ho, mater,'

About 52?

Oh 'yy' to Russell Howard. And Jeremy Clarkson is his God FFS. I did feel sorry for him with his friend today, but as per the arrangements were so vague. He's gone to bed now being all nice after the screaming ab dabs of earlier this evening. He has apparently been 'helpful' by emptying his blazer pockets before putting it in the wash to 'save me a job' Thanks son

The vague arrangements make me so angry. 5000 texts and 200 phone calls to arrange to meet at the park, and he still doesn't know exactly what time or where.

Me too. 'Mum, I'm going to the pictures.' 'That's nice, what are you going to see?' '

DS1 has gone off Russel Howard, he is nearly 14, maybe its a sign!

Yes, Yes!! With the DD's everything is planned to the nth degree. With DS it's like he (and his friends) just expect the universe to cosmically order events for them. And do their homework for them too.

DP is great with DS1. He informs me that he was EXACTLY the same as a teenager. My poor MIL, she had 3 sons.

My mum only had DD's, she's agog at DS1's doings. DS2 is only 8 and is still into lego/beyblades etc... but as DS1 turns normal no doubt he will turn histrionic

O.M.G! This thread is my life lol.

Annunziata agree with every word. Just to give you a tiny ray of hope, my DS is 18 now and he is finally managing to do certain small tasks himself. He can drive (transformed my life), he manages (amazingly) to get himself to places - I still have to listen to chapter and verse about it but it's better than being involved in 'arrangements' (can't think of a word to describe a series of vague non events culminating in another non event).

"can't think of a word to describe a series of vague non events culminating in another non event" oh LOL!! Nail. Head

Your boy can DRIVE?? DS1 can barely brush his teeth on his own, the thought of him driving in a few years is almost inconceivable!!

Oh Gawd!!!

DS1 is 12 and he does all this aready. Forgetfulness. Have you got your blazer, have you cleaned your teeth? Its the same every morning. Obsessed about exactly how his rucksack hangs, the height of his trouser waist band.

Tantrums, tears, ignoring me. I keep thinking I need to back off and let him make his own mistakes and grow up in his own time - but he walks across roads without looking while reading a book sometimes. Its just not possible to leave him to his own devices.

Your telling me it goes on for years!!

The worst thing, the very worst thing, is that DS1 is now an iron maiden fan. His look of shock when I told him that (a) I knew who iron maiden were and that (b) Bruce Dickinson is a pilot was priceless. That wasn't fair either. Yes, the lead singer of iron maiden being a pilot is 'unfair' God help me.

What's the opposite of a 'double dip recession'? Perhaps a 'double peak boom'?! Anyway, whatever it is, I'm afraid my son has had (so far) two periods of insanity - one at about 14 and another in the run up to 17... And I ain't countin' no chickens yet...

Oh jesus flow, can I report your post, get it deleted and pretend that you didn't say that

Was the 16 insanity better/worse than the 14 one?

Worse I'm afraid. Well, for me anyway, because by 16/17 he was much bigger than me, and very scary when angry. Imagine a 6 foot man having a full-blown toddler tantrum... Except you can't put him to bed or feed him a banana :(

Yes, that must be tricky. my DD's are bigger than me (I am short) and if they tantrummed like DS it would be scary. DS is my height at the moment, but judging by how much he is eating right now (that's a whole other thread) a growth spurt is brewing.

Arrgh!!

DS is only still only 15 and 6'1". He has (for the time being) dropped the moody drama-queen histrionics sensitive mood-swings. We start GCSEs next week however, so am not holding breath.