Ahhhhh, and breathe. Letting go.

[Sposh]

I have a 15yr old girl. There are many issues not least the one where she has refused to go to school for the last 18 months.

I battled and battled with her on this, we had months when I spent every morning practically tearing my hair out trying to get her out of bed and into school swinging between anger and tears. Then they threw her out

Since then we've gone from pillar to post trying to get her educated against her will until... ahhhhhh, I let go.

I can't tell you the relief. And Breathe.

It's down to her now, if she wants to be some hot shot then she's going to have to work at it herself. I love her but I'm not going to pick up the pieces any more.

Well done sposh I fully understand how that ahhhhhh breath bit must feel. Myself and dh have been fighting with our dd for over a year and fighting between ourselves over school issues. Dh put dd into a private school, she hated it and made sure we knew about it on a daily basis. Caused nothing but Argo.
I gave in and put her into a state school on the promise she would obey the rules and wear the uniform etc. lasted a week. So then myself and dh started fighting again over how she ruining her life etc.
Well I just told them both, she's 15 nearly 16. If she wants to fuck up her life because she can't be bothered then that's her choice, I am no longer going to push and fight a child who is very bright but doesn't do rules etc or want to listen. She has to make the right choices herself from now.
Like you I do love her but the tension and fights were too much and ruling everyone else's life so yes I breath again x