15 year old DS obessed with sex - not in a good way!

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We're just found out through messages, videos and internet history on my 15 year DS phone that he's very sexually rude to girls - girls we have no idea how he's become friends with, which is very alarming! He appears to have had sex with two of them and to have no respect for either the girls or himself and I'm so angry. He's high functioning ASD, which makes things more difficult, but I just want to confront him with the findings so its all out in the open, then ground him, taking way his phone as he won't need it if he can't go out. He doesn't have access to (hardcore porn-that's what he's watching) on his computer becuase the parental settings are set accordingly. I thought we knew who his friends were, but we clearly don't, and the responses from the girls are just as bad. We're quite open as a family and discuss all issues that we think both our DS's will face but this low moral code is not acceptable and if it goes unnoticed i'm worried he'll turn into a bullying abusive young man. I really help some help with this one please. Does anyone have any other suggestions?

Do you have any help from CAMHS currently?

I think this is a current problem with teens of this generation, so easy to access unsuitable stuff, and it is so normalised. I would be discussing this issue with the school if you can - they need to know there are teens, both boys and girls exchanging sexual messages.

Imagine your DS was already 16, and was messaging a 15 yr old like this.

Schools can do a general assembly / meeting on social networks, internet, and mobile safety. They should be happy to do something like this addressing it to all pupils.

I think you are right to take phone away, and I would be replacing it with a basic model with no internet apps or camera.

Thank you boredandrestless thats a really good idea about informing the school, he currently goes to a very small school with a high percentage of special needs children so I think it would benefit all of them.

We do have help with CAMHS, and they have been brilliant on other issues, but he just won't accept any responsibility for his actions, its always someone else fault.