Is DD depressed?

[giraffescantdothemoonwalk]

She is 12 and in year 8
Everyday, she says she doesn't want to go to school. She is being bullied - I am aware of this and I am working with the school.
She has self harmed on one occasion but not done since. She has said she wants to die.
What can I do?

Hi giraffe, i didnt want to leave this unanswered nor do i want to scare you(have namechanged on this) but i was bullied at sch. prob from when i was your dd age and also picked on when at work which is 1o times worse as an adult because you cant just go and tell someone. Im now an adult self harmer and i stopped this a few yrs ago but im sad to say that due to differing reasons its started again and i dont feel as though i have much control, eg i pick up a razor to cut my arms without thinking about this!!im on antidepressants and am hoping this cycle stops like it started again. Your dd needs help before it goes too far, you should make a dr appt with her, unfortenly i grew up without my mum which is prob not helped me to be honest. Big hugs to you and your dd and i hope you get the help you need

Thank you serious I will get in touch with the doctor. I just don't know what to do

yes pls get in touch with the dr beause for me it seems to be a way of life at mo and the job i do my arms and hands r on show and i cant keep thinking of excuses, lucikly my moggy gets blamed lol try connexions or something, pls update on progress

I rang the doctors. We have an appointment. I just think have I done this? I wasn't a good mum at one point.

Oh giraffes, please don't blame yourself, it can happen to anyone. I was a depressed and suicidal teenager, although a little older than your dd, and my parents were and are great. I still ended up having a hard time, it's really not your fault. Also, because of my parents' support I came out the other end in one piece. You're doing the right thing by acknowledging she isn't ok and taking her to the doctor. Hope your appointment goes well.

The appointment went ok. I feel it could have been better. The doctor is very worried about the fact she wants to die. We have an emergency referral to CAHMS. Should have an appointment in a few weeks.
It's good we are somewhere on this dire journey. I see a glimmer of hope emerging!

Me and exh divorced when she was 5 and i do still love him but can't forgive him. It's hard to pretend it's ok when it's not.

So sorry to hear you're going through this.

On a practical level, what's happening about school. Does she have any friends? What form does the bullying take? Does she have any good friends outside school? What does she enjoy doing?

Does she see her dad? I was in the same position as you re my ex (if yours was unfaithful, that is) and I decided to just let it all go. All that resentment and worry is very hard to bear.

Do you work? I'm not sure I could send her to school if I knew she was being bullied. How awful for both of you.

I wouldn't send her to school, christ if it's that bad why does she have to go ? I really wish they'd jump all over the bullies and keep them away from the nice kids but since they won't there's no way my kids would be sent into that environment every day.
What do the school have to say for themselves about protecting her ?
On a positive note our CAMH appointment has come through quite quickly so I'm hoping to have some help with my daughter in the next week or so.

Pressed return too quickly ..... so hopefully you'll have the same level of service.

I work and I'm miles away from anyone who can look after her. She doesn't see her dad.
I don't go to school unless I must - I know some bullies mums well and i want to tell them there dc are not nice . I am looking at other schools but the waiting lists are long - it would be another 6 months before were near the top.