How often do your kids see their bf/gf

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I was wondering....my DD has just got her first bf and so far they see each other say 2/3 times a week. He is working (also weekends included) and she is just about to sit her GCSE's. Would you put any restrictions on this?

My DD1 and DS are by the sounds of it similar age and DD1 is also about to sit her GCSEs so assuming same year group.

DD sees her boyfriend probably 5 or 6 days a week, they go to school together and are in the same social group. Normally after school they go out (starbucks etc) or to each others houses. They usually meet up at the weekend and often stay over so can mean 7 days.

Ds seems to change girlfriends much more regularly and sees them less, but I wouldn't feel the need to put any restrictions unless it became a case of prioritising seeing the gf/bf over everything else.

DD and Ds will both happily push back meeting up or come home early if I ask them to so I don't see it as a problem.

When I first read your post the first thing I thought was 2-3 times a week seems very little for teenagers to be seeing each other!

I saw my bf most days at that age.

I think unless it starts getting in the way of anything else its fine to see each other as often as they like.

I suppose if they are at school together they would see each other every day but that's not the case. They also text and face time and message each other anyway. Her issue is not to neglect her friends, strangely they come first (for now) and she listens to them and is soooo concerned about 'what they think of her'. I think she may be a little immature if this bothers her and I think she should be making her own decisions. One 'friend' has openly admitted she is very jealous of her having a bf.

I don't mind how often they see each other, when I think back to my first bf we were almost inseperable which was maybe a little unhealthy looking back, I guess it's finding that balance.

I think at that age she is right to put her friends first. Chances are bf's will come and go but a fair few friends will stick around.

She's not immature, she is a teenage girl. What people think of you is very important when you are that age . She will grow in to her self in time and gain more confidence to be more individual.

I think I would be more worried if she ditched her friends in favour of the bf.

Ds is 16 doing gcses and g/f is 17 in 6th form at different school and don't live close. Ds also had a job. He sees her 2 or 3 times a week.

My DD is also about to sit (the scottish equivalent of) her GCSE's. She sees her BF (who's 17) once or twice a week. They don't quite live within walking distance of each other btw. Yesterday she spent 7 hours at his house. She's at a hobby thing today. If she asks to see him this evening I'll say no. She won't be allowed to see him now until Thurs at the earliest.