Rolling home in the early hours

[WMDinthekitchen]

DD and friends went out last evening. DD and her BF came back at 1am and he proceeded to call for Hughie. Loudly. She was stone cold sober. Later a couple more friends arrived (2.30am) and DD was occupied with making sure BF vommed into the lav so I let them in. They were all polite and apologetic (altho' BF was rather incoherent). I have to go to work this morning but I really don't mind. Think it's because I had an exceedingly boring teenagehood and hardly ever went out. And also because she will go away to university in September and I will be on my own busy having parties and going out myself

I guess some/many/most of you would be furious. I just don't feel that. I would, though if it happened a lot (it's the first time). Will have a quiet word with her later.

Waiting for flaming because it is surely the duty of every mother to be hard on transgressions.

What is your experience?

(Am an insomniac, and never have a full night's sleep, ever)

I have only one experience of an incoherent DC and that was DS last Christmas holiday. His friends phoned me around 11.30 pm to say DS had drunk a lot and was in bad shape and they would bring him home. It took two strong boys plus two helpful girls to drag him up to second floor where we live and they dumped him on the fold out couch in recovery position. He was completely out cold all the way. I asked them what he had been drinking, how much, how long (12 shots of vodka approximately in quick succession; he had called me in good shape about an hour earlier), I sincerely thanked them for taking care of him (he had thrown up in the car and when they took him out) and warned them never to do anything that stupid themselves.

Then after DS tried throwing up but didn't wake and since I couldn't get any response from him I called an ambulance and he was taken off, with me, to the hosp. I was afraid he would choke on vomit at home and I wouldn't be able to help him. They put him on a drip and I sat up with him unconscious until about 3 am -- the doctor said he would probably wake about 4.45 am and I could pick him up around 5, so I walked about half a mile home, crashed on the couch after putting the blanket that was there in the washing machine, set my phone to alarm at 4.40 and sent a text to exH to phone me when he awoke. Alarm went off and I drove to the hosp with clothes for DS, found him with the most mortified and horrified and utterly sick look on his face, dressed in hospital gown and boxers. He apologised to all the staff and to me and I had him apologise to his sisters and his friends and take care of the laundry of his clothes (t shirt and jeans had all come off as he had been dragged home) and the blanket and a good cleaning of the fold out couch before letting him off to bed when we got home.

He hasn't touched a drop since to the best of my knowledge. His blood alcohol level was really high when he was admitted and still rising as he metabolised the vodka. I'm glad I didn't try taking care of him myself. I blame exH partially as he had given DS a 6 pack for Christmas and has been trying to get DS drinking since he was about 15. Sort of glad it happened and DS ended up safe. I would have been far more worried if it was a DD who had been out of her mind and this was a lesson to the DDs about the power of alcohol and how completely helpless they could become if they drink stupidly. I love DS's friends. I know they did a really stupid thing together (it was a drinking game) but they were sensible enough to call and take care of DS and I don't hold it against them.

Rolling home (or being carried :D) is surely part of the older teen experience?
If it isn't then I'm a shockingly bad mother... however as my older teens are all well adjusted, doing nicely at A level/job/Uni I don't think I can have been THAT bad.

Mine (now aged 20,19 and 18 this week) have all done it a couple of times. If it were frequent I would have worried but a one off drunken experience isn't the end of the world as long as they are brought home safely.

Having said that none of mine have ever got into a state likes Mathanxiety's son..so I appreciate that is a whole level of scary different.

My DD2 was 18 this week and is going out tonight..being dragged out really as she is not a natural clubber (more a pjs and let's watch Criminal Minds together girl) and we are both expecting her to be brought home drunk as she rarely has any alcohol at all.

As you say.. if they go off to university they will be faced with a lot of people getting legless, at least during fresher's week, and knowing their own limits, and how to help someone else who is very drunk, is not a bad thing! My elder DD is in her second year at Med school and the tales she tells me makes me glad she didn't go off to uni a total innocent but they all look after eachother.

That was one of the things I told the DDs when they were all standing staring slack jawed at DS -- don't ever leave a girl alone in that condition. And I said it to DS too once he had sobered up. He needs to pass on the favour he had from his friends in some way.

It's all part of the growing up isn't it?

I found it very very funny when it was DS

DD1 (I hope) learned a lesson from a friend who ended up like DS did, but at age 14. When the friend woke up in the hospital the doctors told her she really should have died given her blood alcohol level.