Is this a teenage battle worth fighting?

[pinksancerre]

Dd is 13 and regardless of the time I tell her to be in, she pushes it a few minutes or anything up to half and hour. Now I try to pick my battles but this is becoming a regular thing What would you do, leave it as a little bit of boundary pushing or how would you tackle it!

Pink, only you can decide how to approach this. There are some things that you can think through that may make it easier though.

How did you feel when you were a teen?
How did your parents deal with you?
What did they do that helped?
What did they do that did not?
What do you want to achieve here?
What are your concerns?
How realistic are they?
What can she do to remain safe and alleviate your concerns?
How can you frame these in order to get a positive outcome for you and your DD?

One question in particular, regarding safety may be: is it safer for her to leave alone, rather than leaving with her friends?

You are in a difficult situation. Only you can work out what is best for you and DD. You have my sympathy.[busmile]

Thank you for all your advice, lots to think about. Luckily the weather forecast here tomorrow is terrible, so she won't be going out tomorrow so time to mull things over and have a chat to her

With ds1 (an emtirely different and more reasonable ds than ds2) we said for every minute he was late (without phoning us to say why he might be late~) wed count it as 10 mins and that would be knocked off the next evenings curfew...worked for us at that time.