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Not sure what to do about dd

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pinksancerre · 30/03/2012 12:31

Really hoping for some mn wise words. Last night dd (13) was very subdued. So after probing she confessed that the day before she had cut herself with a compass. Just once and she has a superficial cut to the inside of her left arm. I asked her why and she said she was upset about something at school and her friend told her to do it as it might help. I asked her how she felt after she had done it and if it helped and she said no, she felt foolish and embarrassed. She assures me that she has no intention of doing it again. But I am struggling to know if there is anything else I should be doing. She is doing ok at school, has friends and does things out of school. It seems to be a 'trendy' thing to do at dd school and by the number of names reeled off by my dd of people who 'do it' was staggering. Should I be contacting the school? Dd also has asked me not to tell anyone including dh. I am not sure how dh would react and whether I should tell him. Any advice gratefully received.

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pinksancerre · 30/03/2012 12:43

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Chigley1 · 30/03/2012 12:43

Poor you, how worrying, at least she seems to have her head screwed on properly. Don't have any experience of this but as an ex-teacher I think the school would want to know if this is becoming acceptable, or even recommended, amongst the girls. They may be able to tackle it without singling anyone out.

mummytime · 30/03/2012 12:59

If possible take her to see the GP, if only on the grounds that it might be "infected". I would also talk to the school, my DDs heads of year would be great at handling this kind of thing.

dexter73 · 30/03/2012 13:00

I don't think it seems to be too much of a worry. I know that dd and her friends have done it at some point because, as you said, it was a bit 'trendy'. It freaked me out a bit but it wasn't something that they all did regularly, just once or twice. I would just keep an eye out for further instances before worrying too much about it. I'm not saying to just ignore it but not to make a big deal out of a one-off experimentation.

bagelmonkey · 30/03/2012 13:02

Be careful about taking her to the GP. If she opened up to you, she trusts you & wasn't too worried about your reaction. If she thinks you might over react or blow things out of proportion she may be wary about confiding in you in the future.

pinksancerre · 30/03/2012 13:14

Thank you for the replies. I am reasonably confident this was a one off. She is quite sensible but a bit of a sheep and follows what other people do! I think I will speak with the school as I am in quite close contact with her tutor due to some other minor issues!

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