Just lost my first post... my 18yo sister lives with myself and DH and our 6mo ID twin girls. She doesn't live with our parents as we live closer to her uni and before that her school.
In short the problem is she has a boyfriend who is quite rough and now the family is falling apart over this. My parents met him in the early autumn and disapproved immediately. I'm sure he is a nice enough kid but honestly he is not really the type of guy she should be hanging out with. Our father went mad about this when he met him and very quickly the relationship between my sister and our parents went downhill.
Our ID twins arrived in October and the whole situation seemed to blow over as everyone was preoccupied with the twins...but she let everyone believe the relationship was over and created a whole 'secret life'. In the end i realised i was lying about her whereabouts to cover up for her and knew this would get nasty. Now the whole thing has exploded - our parents know about the continued relationship. They are really quite distraught about it and there are terrible rows going on. My dad is quite heartbroken over this situation. they are on the phone to me all the time going crazy but i just don't know what to do...she won't break up with him and won't listen to any advise i have to offer. I'm completely stuck in the middle.
In the meantime she feels she has no home with them anymore and maybe no home here because i have nicely suggested she just finds another boy...I just don't know what to do - and my hands are full with 6mo twins!! I don't want her to feel alone because she has distanced herself from our parents... if she left here (she threatens to move out) she might end up going down the wrong path
I am hoping it's a phase and will pass.... what would you do? I realise there's probably not that much!.... i'm just so sick of this tension between everyone and trying to be the peace maker.