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helping my 13yr cope

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lillyrose3 · 11/03/2012 15:06

hi i was hoping for some advice. i feel lost right now, my son is having anger issue he finds it hard to control his anger when he's mad. he's not lashing out at me.. but he has on a couple of occasion squared up to his dad. me and his dad aren't together haven't been since he was 4yr due to his dad violence, he's aware of the rights and wrongs of hitting ppl. but still struggle to calm himself down. he walk out when he told not to and just does the opposite of what i say. i feel im loosing control of him. we have tried counselling but it's not worked. ive tried to find family therapy in my area, but there seem to be non... i just want to help him cope. he's a good kid most of the time but his behaviour at school and home is getting out of hand and i don't know if im doing enough. i really hope it just a phase but i feel if i don't do something now or screw up in some way. he will turn into his dad and then i have failed. please help

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lillyrose3 · 11/03/2012 15:07

oh i should add i think he's depressed also.

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nightswimmer · 11/03/2012 16:59

Sorry you're having a tough time lilyrose. It sounds hard work but as you say, he's a good kid deep down. 13 is a difficult age . I dont have a son but one thing came to mind, is there any male figure in his life who could take an interest and maybe do things with him, not his dad? It sounds like he feels no one is listening to him, and perhaps he is aware of your fear he will turn out like his dad. Sorry I cant be more help. I have a daughter who grew up without her dad properly in her life, and these things run deep.

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