Hi,
I went to see the doctor today to support my sister as her daughter, in an angry fit of rage, last night showed her mum some 'cutting marks' of self harming on her forearm. For a long time now my sister has had difficulties with my niece:
- Refusing to go to school
- Getting angry & upset if things don't go the way she wants e.g. hair, make-up, facing things that's she's uncomfortable with, general life stuff
- Anger issues, sometimes resulting in physicality toward her mum & sister
- Refusing to go to college interviews when they've been arranged
- Starting a retail job & 3 weeks later leaving with no explanation as to why ?
- refuses to talk about what is bothering her and why she gets angry
- Refuses to look for a job/ go to Connexions etc.
- Refuses any offer of professional help - she's completely unwilling to seek any help or go & talk to anyone, whether it be family, friends or a professional
Social Services are being none to helpful because she won't voluntarily seek help. GP is lovely but his hands are tied too.
So, where do we go from here ? The GP has written a referral to SS for my niece but that's just to ask for them to contact my sister and speak with her - no promise of any help etc.
Has anyone else been through this and can offer any advice at all. Where can we go from here ? We were told today that if my niece does something more serious to herself and because she's refused to seek any help, that it would be her parents responsibility.
My sister is at her wits end and very tearful and scared for her daughter. She's tried talking to her and asked her to write down her worries or what's bothering her if she can't vocalise it but all she says is 'You don't understand !!!' But we don't know what it is that's causing this behaviour so how can we start to understand ??
HELP !!!!!