Lack of hygiene in 14 yr old ds

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Ds1 is 14 (almost 15) and has appaling hygiene. He seems to think lying in a bath of hot water for an hour will clean him without any effort on his part.
He will spray cans and cans of lynx deodrant but will not use roll on anti-perspirant (have tried not buying any spray but he still doesnt use the roll on, and spray anti-perspirant doesnt seem to work for him on its own).
He has started devloping spots, i brought him clean & clear wipes and facial wash, but he wont use them.
Brushing his teeth is a major issue as well, if i could i would hold him in a headlock and brish them for him, but hes taller and stronger than me.

We are quite a well groomed family in that he thought of smelling of bo, repluses me, i'm not a clean freak by any stetch of the imagination, but ensure that i am showered and smell fresh, use anti-perspirant as well as perfume or a spray. I make sure that the younger dc wash with soap/gel in the bath/shower and ds2 who is 10 and beginning to smell a bit whiffy after playing sports (i blame the nylon kits) uses anti-perspirant spray or roll on and showers after activities that make you sweat such as football and rugby.
Why won;t ds1 show some pride?
(gets ready for the flaming :o)

i am of no help at all .. just wanted you to know i had a DD who went through the phase, she grew out of it by the time she was 16 .. no matter what products i bought she wouldnt use any of it, and yes she sprayed lynx like there was no tomorrow lol

Don't want to be rude about your ds, but if he is anything like my 15 year old dd (who's bedroom floor I have just cleared with a shovel) the answer to most teenage problems seems to be they live in a parellel universerse and their brains are not properly wired. Good luck. (I need it too.)

um yes cleaning room with shovel could ahve doen with that the other day.
He shares a room with his 10yr old brother, unfortunatley ds2 is a clean freak and tidy freak but ds1 is a complete slob.

im amazed that ds1 gets any girls to sit anywhere near him, let alone have a girlfriend. But he seems popular, lots of friends etc, just wonder why no one has said to him, eew ds1 you stink!

You are not alone although I have no advice. I wish I did.

I could have written your post about ds who's 15. I don't know what to do/say to make him care about personal hygiene. I am at a loss. :(

Perhaps the girls are overwhelmed already by their own heady reeks. He may be sitting next to my dd, in which case she will not even notice (and I apologise for any language he might pick up).

Barbarian/- that did make me chuckle. I'm sure ds1 knows plenty of colourful language it may be him teaching your dd!

I apologise for awful spelling I think my fingers are too fat for my iPhone

My boy is exactly the same. He will go in the bathroom and sit there (for a whole hour) doing pretty much nothing. I don't know when the last time was that he actually used soap! Thankfully, he doesn't have body odour so maybe he does, at the very least, wash under his arms.....maybe.

Hopefully, he will grow out of it.

In our house it is DD who is like that, so I do sympathise.

On the anti-perspirant thing, our DSs only use RightGuard. Sure or anything else doesn't cut it, according to them. DS1, in particular, is especially hygienic and is very picky about all personal hygiene products. He says that only RightGuard works.