As I've said she is 15 now, there have always been problems but we have never had any help or support from anyone when needed, I took her to try and kill someone at school (to the point where the police were called in a charges were nearly pressed) this was last November (she was 14 at the time) obviously she was excluded from school for this and the decision to put her on a positive referral was made, this has taken 3 months to be put into action and she has only just started to return to school last week, 1 hour a day/3 days a week after school hour, this is also in the conjuncion with the CSS. Because of this situation we found our self going back to the doctors and finally getting a referral to CAMHS, of which she has now met them 4 times and only 3 of them were with a psychologist. There are many issues we need to deal with daily, stealing (large amounts of money from friends homes), threats, antisocial behaviour, drugs, drinking,self harm...etc. The people she is around are of the same attitude and not a help at all (I was even threatened by one of her older friends). She also is a compulsive liar and has accused people of thing with are not true and we are waiting for the next serious lie.
We also have a son who will be 5 this year and her attitude toward him is terrible and he has been hurt through her actions. We (her mother & I) are now at the end of our tether and have found we have hit a dead end. Neither of us trusts her in our home, she is wreaking the neighbourhood and causing a disruption with our neighbours.
We have thought about getting her to stay with her grandmother, but there are issues there and she doesn't even want to see her anymore, her 'real' dad isn't a option. We feel we are not getting any support and feel that even with all the people involved we are getting nowhere, I have got to the point where I will do everything to keep out of her way (she doesn't like me & will do anything to upset me), I am concerned for my sons safety and am probably over protecting him, he now shares a bed with my partner and I and is if possible never left with her. We feel we can't take her out anywhere as she kicks off at random people in the street, and we can't leave her in the home as we don't know what will be stolen but her or the people she lets in. Though myself and my partner are still strong and supportive of each other, this is obviously causing strain on our relationship & I not 100% sure how long we will last as a family.
If there is anything you can suggest or advice you can offer (we on the verge of considering getting her put into care) I would be so thankful, Its taken a long time to find any support for the parents and I'm glad I have, it is sad to see that we aren't the only ones with these problems but also a bit of a relief.
Thanks in advance for any help or advice anyone can give.