Oppositional Defiant Disorder - 17yr old

[DesertDweller3]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum!
I'd like to hear if any of you have advice on how to deal with a teenage boy who has Oppositional Defiant Disorder.
We have read a lot about it but still have trouble dealing with his constant arguing and complete unwillingness to follow rules, etc.
We've recently been forced to homeschool him which is making the tension & stress in our home skyrocket. TIA

Bumping for you

I have an 11 year old DS who has a formal diagnosis of ODD and autism. The ODD diagnosis came first. We then had him further assessed because ODD is a co-morbid disorder which cannot exist alone.

Sometime the ODD overshadows the autism. After 4 years I can now recognise the difference between DSs ODD and his autism.

Sorry not much help. Just wondered if your DS had been assessed further

are you getting any help from CAMHS? Who assessed him?
this is a good book and also this book has some good strategies in.

Hi, I'm sorry I don't know much about ODD but I have a DS with Aspergers and I've found the Special Needs Children board really helpful. There are lots of very knowledgeable people over there, maybe try posting there as well?

Mary that 2/3rds their chronological age socially sounds about right for ds. Have never heard that before but will trot it out now at every occasion!

Myself and my wife are at our wits end , we have been struggling with this for years. My son is now 17yrs and the other evening I had to remove him from our home due to the things he was saying and the devastating effect he has on our home life.I dropped him at his Uncles house and when I got home I was left with a sense of shame and regret that I had to do that.My relationship with my wife has been damaged over the years and perhaps even we didn't fully realise it until now.He has crucial exams this year and has not aplplied himselfand is heading for failure like a runaway train.
I am supposed to be looking for a place to live as I write this.I feel a duty to him and will lose a huge amount as my wife will not have him home.
There is something in me that I cannot give up on him even though I know I am fighting a losing battle.
At 12yrs of age he was diagnosed with tourettes but the ticks disappeared over the years.It was only the other days that I read about O D D and he is text book.People outside our family unit cant see or appreciate what we are going through.I'm sure it looks as though we are uncaring parents, that could not be further from the truth. We have a younger son who is the direct opposite of my 17 yr old. So I suppose I am writing this as a little bit of a release for me and a reassurance to other parents in a similar situation YOU ARE NOT GOING MAD !

Kind regards parentsnightmare.