Do you let them sleep in for as long as they want when there's no school....

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.....or do you make them get up?

DD2 is 12 and likes to sleep in at the weekends and holidays to mid morning (yes i know it could get worse). She might surface at 10.30 to 11ish. I don't really mind, but my DH does - he thinks she should be up breakfasted and dressed. DD1 is 13 and always up around 7.30 and is breakfasted etc by 8.30 ish.

The differences in time usually mean that on weekends they are hungry at different times and it can sometimes throw the evening meal out.

Please tell me what happens in your house

Can you remember your mother hoovering on a weekend and bursting into your room when you were hungover when you were trying to grow your brain? Its just cruel!!

DD1 (14) gets to sleep until 11am on Sat. Then we have to go out and may be 12 on Sundays.

However, she has a heartless younger sister who may choose to have her company somewhat earlier!

Personally, I can't bear anyone in my house sleeping in much beyond 10am. I just think it's bloody rude. I also can't stand lazy arsed teenagers around the house.

So, I'm with your DH. Get up, get dressed.

sleeping is rude?

Waken them up? They waken ME up by jumping on my head! A lie in? Chance would be a fine thing! DS is up at 6.30, school or no school!

Um - get up, get dressed, get on with life? See friends, do homework, get out the house, help out a bit around the house, wash your clothes, wash yourself, tidy your room, read a book, go on the internet, have a conversation, interact with your siblings, spend some time together...

Sleep isn't rude. Sleeping during the day is rude.

You asked for opinions. those are mine.

I encourage sleeping as long as possible at the weekends and if you do decide to get up and make noise, ensure that you bring me tea in bed!

but you can do all of those things in the afternoon/evening/night. Go to bed late, get up late. Why is it rude for them to do it at a time that suits them? Surely it's rude to make everyone in your household live to your timetable whether it suits them or not?

If he hasn't got plans then DS1,15, stays in bed as long as he wants. He gets up at 6 and goes running everyday before school so I think he deserves a lie in.

I don't have any problem with meal times. He will often surface just before lunch and lurk about the kitchen eating cereal while I'm preparing it and then take his place at the table and eat all of his lunch and any leftovers that are going.

I much prefer the company of a sleepy well rested teen at 1pm than a sleepy, tired, grumpy, grunting teen at 8am

Wow Nonomum think my DH would love to meet you. He's been up for hours this morning, I've just surfaced but can't see the computer screen very well just yet......

Nonomum it's not rude to sleep in on your Days off. Yes if you need to do something or go anywhere then you should get up. It's past 10 am and I'm still in bed. I would hate anyone to insist I get up. It's much better to be well rested then dragging yourself up when you are still tired. I am getting up in a minute though.

I don't wake sleeping babies or sleeping teens - if they are sleeping, they need their sleep!

When I was a teen I could burn the candle at both ends, 4 hours sleep was enough most of the time. It used to annoy my Dad who always thought I should be in bed earlier at night getting my sleep (and not going out so much/so late) but as I was always up before him/same time as him - but bouncy and full of life he didn't have a leg to stand on

I WISH I had even half the energy I had as a teen!!

I used to drive my first (staying over at/living with) boyfriend MAD as by 6.30 I'd be come on, it's time to get up, what are we doing today, let's do this/that/the other, come on, get up, it's sunny...blah blah' all the while he'd be grunting, pulling the pillow over his head

DS and his mate rolled in at 3am and have just surfaced now. They aren't talking or anything, just wandering around the kitchen in their boxers looking dazed

I believe some people are night owls and others are early risers, and you are what you are. As long as they are getting enough sleep and getting up sensibly for school, if they are lying in at the weekend it's because they need it.

I have noticed a tendency in early risers to think they are morally superior because they get up early. Not so IMO.

Mind you, adult night owls have a tendency to think they deserve all the lie ins because they feel so AWFUL in the morning

I got my daughters up & out for 9.00 today.......without having to nag.....I'm still in shock!!

NonnoMum --
'see friends'? The friends are all fast asleep at the ungodly hour of 11am on a Saturday.
'Get out of the house'? The friends are all fast asleep at the ungodly hour of 11am on a Saturday. They could feed birds, I suppose...

'Tidy your room , read a book, have a conversation' -- hahahahaha. What is a conversation?

'Interact with your siblings' -- I pray every weekend that God will please spare me the teenage daughter sibling interaction thing.

'Spend some time together' -- they sincerely do not want to so that would be a punishment for everyone.

At the risk of being shot out of the water, are you the parent of teenagers? If you are, are they busy enough during the week?

Mine are at school and do sports and homework all week, and homework and sports on the weekends. DD2 comes home from school and does about four hours of solid homework a night. Now that her particular sport season is upon us she has two hours of practice after school every day too. DD4 is at the tail end of one sport season and the start of another. DD3 ditto. I schlepped them somewhere sport-related every night last week except Tuesday. Two weeks ago DD4 had a Friday night game that was supposed to start at 8pm but was delayed because the previous games went into extra time. We got home at 9.35 pm. We rarely get to sleep on Sunday mornings because DD4's choir sings in the church at 9am. Saturday is when we all sleep in.

DS1 is up early, bed in reasonable time and works hard all week. Weekends he stays up to silly hours and sleeps to mid morning.
I turn a blind eye to eating at odd times, my only rule is that we all eat together in the evening, unless someone is out, so he has to remember not to eat his lunch at 5pm .

Ds (16) tells me his circadian rhythms dictate that he has to be in his pit for most of the weekend. As he has IGCSEs coming up, then I'm not too fussed. Sleep helps revision.

StickyProblem love your theory about early risers thinking they are morally superior. Ha! Will pick my moment to pass that little morsel on as I think it is a perfect description of my early riser DH . It has its distinct advantages though, as he takes the dog out while I'm still in the land of nod on a weekend.

I think NonnoMum is just tired. The sleeping in is the best thing about teenagers - love it!

My two sleep in (but up by 7.00) during term-time but DS particularly up by 6.00 pm during the hols much to chagrin of DW.....why oh why can't they sleep in till 9.00 am at earliest....

DS used to be up at 5.00 am without fail till a couple of years ago.....:-(. But we note with some dismay that the sleeping in till 7.00 am during the week is not very good when he will almost need to be out of the house by then when he goes to secondary school - typical!

I have three teens (18, 17 and 15) and they can sleep however much they want. Some days they may be up at 9ish (rare), but if they're asleep, then I'd imagine it's because they're knackered. Between them they're doing A levels, AS levels and GCSEs this year, and they are all great at policing their sleep/study as necessary.

I also have a three year old who apparently has a rogue teenage gene floating around her. She will easily sleep until half 9/10 on weekends/holidays. I have to wake her around 8 for nursery school. She goes to bed at seven, sometimes 8 at the weekend.