shop lifting what to do 2 help dd

[worriedmum33]

my dd has been caught shoplifting with a group of mates age 15 how can i help

What did the shop do?

Police came + they r banned from shop
Will she have a record

No record at 15.

15yrs is the age lots of kids do silly things like this, they want to fit in, be cool, have what there mates have and enjoy the thrill! Like it or not these things happen, kids this age feel indestructible & unfortunately don't think about consequences. The caution will stay on here record for a while but if she doesn't get into any more trouble it won't show up on crb checks when she's an adult. Hope this is a wake up call she hears, I feel for you hun x

Hun?

I'd talk to her about her reasons for doing it and explain that if she continues & she gets caught again it could affect her choice of careers in the future. I have a 13yr old little sister & she is having hormonal probs & doesn't really talk to my mum about stuff at the moment. If your daughters the same, does she have a sister, Aunty or cousin she could talk to x

Sorry you don't like the phrase Hun

What is a 'hun'??

What will the school do about it

Hun as in slang for honey, always end my texts with a Hun x

Do school know about it then? I would assume they would leave it up to you & the police to deal with however if you want some support from them or dd does I am sure they have youth workers that can help out with this. They could perhaps do some group work on consequences, I've done that before with kids that have been getting into trouble/petty crimes.

why would the school know? Do the police inform them? I thought it was a case of outside of school and nothing to do with them, why would they need to be punished three times (i'm assuming that you have given dd a telling off as well as the police)?

A chat about how disapointed you are and how you thought better of her, will be enough to make her think twice, unless this is already part of a pattern of bad behaviour and attitude.

The school won't be routinely informed. Unless it's boarding

School say its not a school issue but they r concerned
Will this be on her sch record ie as will b applying 2 sixth form colleges - do i tell them upfront