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Fear of being kicked out

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tan3517 · 23/02/2012 09:10

I have posted on here a couple of times about my ds. It just seems to be one thing after another. He has been really disruptive at home causing lots of family problems. I feel we get over one issue and another pops up. However I feel this one is getting out of control.
My ds isn't nasty, he is a popular kid in and out of school (yr9). the problem is his school. his school work is really suffering. We have had various phone calls/letters and even meeting at the school to discuss his behavour. We are told he is disruptive in lessons because he is a joker and finds it highly amusing that he gets attention from other kids, so carrys on. He has been moved into a different form class which he has benifited from a tiny bit. (put it this way no phone calls yet!!) . He has now been moved into a different band away from all his old lessions, but is now in different lessions with another load of his mates which I feel he will just do the same..
I have even started to give him pocket money and told him if we don't receive any phone calls etc from the school he will have an additional £5 added for that month, however if we do he will lose £5. I thought this would give him some kind of incentive to behave.
My ds also has a contract with a championship football club and his behavour is reported back to them. Its crunch time next month to see if he gets another two years contract. I just cannot seem to make him understand that he needs to be good otherwise he will lose his contract and lose everything he has been working for since he was 7.
He just says he doesnt care when I know he does!!
I don't know what else to do. If he carrys on he will be expelled from school and that really worrys me.
I would appreciate everyone advice please x

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lucykat · 23/02/2012 09:50

When my son was about 14, he began to act as though he didn't care about anything; his school work suffered and there were rumblings from his teachers. Looking back, I think he was feeling out of his depth with the increased pressure of school work, his peers all seemed to be doing quite well and also he is young for his year, (born in July).

I wonder if your son is feeling that way and so is being a joker to compensate?

My son eventually calmed down but I did get him some private tuition in the subjects he was doing poorly at. Think that increased his confidence a bit.

Best of luck.

tan3517 · 23/02/2012 09:58

Hi, thank you. Yes we have thought of that but again it would be a case of not wanting to do and causing further issues, every time its mentioned I get the attitude again. Its all a big worry. He is taking gcse sport as he wants to do something along those lines as a career. However physical top marks, Theroy struggling with concentration. Along with his science and maths, english which is needed.

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lucykat · 23/02/2012 17:09

I do feel for you; he will probably end up being a great sports person and you will look back at now and it won't matter any more, although I know that is no consolation at the moment.

I often read about successful people who were so awful at school and, lets face it, not everyone is happy there.

I was not happy until I left school - I hated it - and I have done more than OK.

Keep your chin up.

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