DD is deliberately winding up the neighbours

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My neighbours are complaining about the noise my dd makes who is 12.
I don't blame them tbh she will shout for hours on end and since the neighbours first complained if something happens she doesn't like or want to do she stands next to the wall and screams through the wall and stamps her feet like a bloody horse. If I pull her away she starts screaming that I am beating her.
She has kicked off since coming home from school today because I asked her to pick some crayons up while i cooked and I won't buy her a lipsy bag .
I am wary of the neighbours they are not your average nice and understanding people, they have just put their music on full blast and are hammering something and I'm sure it is revenge for dd screaming for the past 4 hours.
I spend my time begging her to stop shouting and stamping but it makes her worse.
I have to say she has dyspraxia and some LD and we are having a rough time lately due to exdp moving out. But her behaviour was similar when he was here.
I don't know what to do to make her stop.

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Hi

This must be terrible for you I'm guessing you feel like you're walking on egg shells.

Firstly I think (if you haven't already) you should explain fully to the neighbours what she is doing and ask them in the short term to just live with it as much as they can while you tackle the issue. I really think you need to take the pressure if yourself by doing this first.

Hmmm then for how to get her to stop? Having a think hopefully someone else will be along shortly with the answer.

I agree with planet, tell them she is doing it on purpose and tell her that you have told them that.

It's almost like going back to toddlerdom that you need to ignore their behaviour as much as possible.

Does she do it at school?

Are you getting any support for her behaviour ?
A 12 yr old screaming for 4 hours really isn't within the bounds of what a usual 12 yr old does.
Does she behave like this at school ?
You need to see your GP and see if you can be referred to CAMHS. Ed Psychs here sometimes have 'self refer clinics' any parent can go along to, too - maybe this is worth investigating ?