my 17 year old son

[lucykat]

Can anyone advise me please? my 17 year old son has recently split with his girlfriend. It was his first relationship and they were together for one and a half years. He says it was a mutual decision, but I don't think he was ready for it to end. He is sad and demotivated, (just before A levels exams, great)! I feel powerless to help, I know it's something he has to go through, but any thoughts would be much appreciated. Thanks

Bless him, it will hit him hard for a while I suspect. Time will be the biggest healer. Allow him to talk but don't force him. Can you organise a few distractions for him such as a cinema trip etc? Often at this age (when they are in a relationship) it is all consuming and lots of things such as hobbies, other friends etc, are overlooked. Now might be a good time to encourage him to start gradually reintroducing some of his 'pre girlfriend' activities?

Lots of hugs too, they are never too old

Let him know that you understand how he is feeling. Im sure you are anyway but when my son went through similar just us saying that we knew how he was feeling seemed to help him .... as did a few treats and some of his favourite food!

Thanks for understanding, is nice to know other parents have gone through this too!

My DS1 was devastated when his girlfriend of 2 years broke up with him.. totally fell apart and it was horrible. BUT time does heal it really does.

I then went though it again when DD2 (17) was dumped by her b'friend of a year.. she was besotted with him and I'm not kidding when I say she sobbed for weeks.. 5 months on and she is just about able to cope:/

It's so horrible not being able to make things better..but all you can do is be there for hugs and tissues til the worst is over!

Thanks everyone. He has been better this week, (back at school and with his cronies, I guess).

At least I will be more prepared for when it happens again.