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Mother in Laws attitude!

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 13:23

I have just got off the phone to my mother in law and updated her on my DS behaviour. Listen to this - I said to her did you have a word with him, her reply was yes. She told me what she said and I replied with - you have to be harder than that, nice talk doesnt work anymore. Her response was yes I know, but I dont want him to hate me I only have one grandchild!!! Angry

Am I going off my rocker or can you all please tell me your thoughts?

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Trifle · 09/02/2012 13:29

Parenting is your job. Hers is to spoil her grandchild

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 13:48

Yes I understand its my job Trifle however he needs to know that he cant go running to his nan when he wants something! Plus to undermine his parents rules.

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SparkleSoiree · 09/02/2012 13:51

I think that is one of the perks of having Grandparents; that you can run to them when you need a bit of attention/love.

It's parents that do the messy bit. One day you will be a Grandparent maybe and yours will come to you...I don't know any Grandparent that doesn't love their grandkids coming to them in their time of need - however trivial us parents think it is.

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 13:56

Yes you are right , its so hard when it causes conflict in our family though to add to the many teenage issues :)

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Maryz · 09/02/2012 14:11

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Pagwaatch · 09/02/2012 14:13

I agree with Maryz

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 14:17

So do I thank you but how do I approach this situation?

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Pagwaatch · 09/02/2012 14:21

What situation?

He is at his grandmothers. What is it that you want her to get him to do? In what way is she undermining you?

Maryz · 09/02/2012 14:21

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 14:28

No its been going on for a while. things like buying him a ralph lauren top for £75 and the a bodywarmer for trust me so much more ....... and then he going outside to kick a ball in it - to me that is disrespect and not appreciate a single thing. So dont keep handing it on a plate to him when he doesnt understand the value of money

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 14:30

Yes I know you are right I am so passionate and so not level headed :(

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Pagwaatch · 09/02/2012 15:11

It is really hard to see the wood for the trees when our dc are driving us nuts, so you gave my sympathies. But really, if she buys them and he ruins them I would shrug and think 'her problem'.

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 15:19

Yeah I know what you are saying and thank you but that doesnt teach him bcause he expects it from us . Dont do it in the first place and we wouldnt be in this situation :)

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Maryz · 09/02/2012 17:47

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SparkleSoiree · 09/02/2012 18:06

I agree.

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 18:32

I need even at my age to be told whats what and believe or not I do appreiciate it :)

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tan3517 · 09/02/2012 19:17

:) x

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