Bit long, sorry but don't want to drip feed. Name changed just in case.
My DS (13) was called w*er by the mother of a girl in his class on his way to school on Friday morning. Heard about it following phonecall from senior teacher at school this afternoon, to whom DS reported the incident on Friday.
School have investigated as far as they can and are not aware of any incidents at school or complaints from the girl or her mother about DS's behaviour which may have led to this. Having talked to DS, it appears that there was some foolish BBMing on Thursday evening from him, in which he commented that the music the girl was listening to - which showed on her BBM "status" - was sad and, when she responded in similar vein, he told her to get a life. It would seem therefore that the "abuse" on Friday was a direct result of this.
The BBM comments were foolish because DS had been told over 2 years ago to keep well away from this girl because of an incident between them which the school dealt with at the time, but over which the other mother kicked up a stink - the view of the school was that it was pretty much 50/50 on that occasion. For the few weeks after that incident, DS did mention that the mother had given him threatening stares from her car, but I just told him to ignore and it would pass. All quiet since then until this.
DS seems indignant about the name-calling but also a little afraid. The mother concerned is tall and imposing, and does have a reputation as a bit of a trouble maker. I am slightly afraid of her myself and have heard rumours of threats she has made to others. I have decided I need to drive him to school for the next few days as I am concerned about what else she may do. Am I over-reacting? Or am I under-reacting? (School advised there was nothing further they could do as it involves a parent outside school but that if i wanted to do anything should contact the police). Or is it DS's fault for sending foolish BBMs and he therefore needs to just suck it up?
Have obviously re-emphasised to DS that he must stay well away from the girl, have no contact with her on social media, and not even refer to her to anyone else.
Any views/advice gratefully received.