please be nice, this is my first post here, and speaking to parents myself will stress them out even more at a really difficult time. If you do know who I am, please dont out me .
My younger sister (just turned 16) has decided shes gay. Not a problem, bit of a shock as she had boyfriends in the past, but its her thing and it doesnt bother any of us. However , her behaviour over it...has been really difficult. She has become extremly attached to a girl whos behaviour has been just as difficult. This involves attacking family members, running away at all hours of the night, screaming, breaking things, graffitti you name it. This has gone on for a long time, we think possibly because we actually saw her being gay as not a problem , she decided to almost make it one. She has been seen by Cams, who think she may also be autistic , however this is due to previous problems over the years and she will be being assessed soon. Admittedly her behaviour has been a lot better, she is much easier to deal with and after a final incident, has finally seen we are not against her and calmed her behaviour down. Anyway this is where it gets difficult.
Both girls contact eachother through the phone and internet. Previous behaviour of them had resulted in photos of all sorts, etc that you wouldnt really expect being sent to each other and was only found out due accidental email to sent to parents. When parents spoke to them about it, huge arguments took place, however this seemed to have stopped. Yet both girls complained of the girls at their school bullying them for the photos and videos they were putting up about each other. Admittedly I was worried, having seen so much about people bullying and sending round public messages about it and what it could do to her in the future, especially if this gay thing turns out to be a phase. However now they have both started again, however mainly using youtube, which is more disturbing as its so public and easier to get to. The videos are not extremly concerning at the moment, but definatly could be used for bullying in the future, and I am really concerned about it going to the level it was previously at. It really upsets my parents last time they did this, and I am really concerned both for them and my sister, as she really does not understand why she shouldnt be doing this ( again potential learning issue here). I just want to go and disable the camara on her laptop, but I dont know if this will work, or whether her behaviour could rise up again. Without trying to sound harsh, her behaviour does seem to be almost made worse by the encoragement of the other girl, who seems to be pushing her to be as public as possible, and that no one understands her but her, and without her the other girl would rather kill herself ( sadly her words again).
Im sorry for the long message , and I hope I dont offend anyone. But I am really concerned for my sister, and am worried how to go about anything. Please be nice :(