A lovely morning in our house

[Mrsrobertduvall]

Dh and ds have been away for 3 weeks, dd and I quite happy at home. No ructions, everyone calm.
The boys come home this week, dd has awful GCSE science module yesterday, was on fb till late last night (I was out, dh in bed with jetlag) so she is tired and grumpy today. Told dh to fuck off this morning and "why did you have to come home".
Oh joy.
And I have a bit of a headache

Put it down to tiredness but let dd know you will not tolerate language like that ever

Oh dear! Have a .

My dh used to work away and it was always difficult when he first came home. It takes a while to get into stride as a group again.

Jetlag is horrid too - makes you feel so foggy - and it is hard to live with someone who is sleeping in when you don't want them too and foggy when they are awake.

Be kind to yourself and put it down to a resettling period.

We all have days like this so we all sympathise.

Tell him you are sorry and move past it.

I hope your headache clears soon.

Oh whoops! She needs to apologise, not you! Sorry!

Oh yes she will be apologising big time tonight.
And have no fb for a while.

I am eating my weight in toast and butter, and massive mugs of tea

and I am still smiling and being calm.

Oh I am sorry. I did see on the exams thread that your dd has had lots of anxiety about her exams, so it sounds as if she is very stressed at the moment.

That said, I would go nuts if dd told me or DP to fuck off. She has to know that she simply can't speak to people like that, no matter how stressed out she is. She really needs to apologise, and mean it.

Very hard for you, though.

Good on you with tea and toast. Have some chocolate too

But I would ban any computer use (apart from school work obv) for the weekend. Yes, exams are very stressful (I have DS1 16 and DD 14 - both very stressed with school work) but that doesn't excuse the language.

Off to make toast now you've put the thought into my head

If your dd is very stressed has she been taught any relaxation techniques? The school may have done this as exam time approaches. Is she getting physical exercise/let off steam time too? Sometimes the stress can build up to a point where they are like rabbits in headlights and are immobilised by the whole process (ie it just overwhelms them and they do nothing).

It might be worth looking at some relaxation techniques.

Bach's rescue remedy pastilles or spray helps some people too.

Totally agree with you all about not letting her speak to us like that.

She is seeing the school nurse today..she refuses to go to therapy any more. I will suggest we go for a quick run tonight and ensure early nights all round.