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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

worried about my dd's relationship

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alemci · 02/01/2012 11:37

I don't know if any other mum's have been through this but my ED's relationship with her bf is a current worry for me. they have been together over a year. Both busy studying. She is slightly older than him and they went on holiday this year with his parents. They both have loads of friends and tend to do things separately as well as together.

She saw loads of him over christmas but then he went away with parents afterwards. She assumed they would see each other on new year when he got back but he arranged to go out with his mates and they had a row on the phone.

She sensibly went out to party with other friends but she still hasn't seen him. she says things are fine but she is waiting for him to come to her which is sensible but at the same time it really worries me. She says he is always like this and doesn't seem that bothered.

She gets really annoyed if I interfere and give my opinion but it really stresses me out probably more me than her. i know I need to mind my own business but I know his parents and we move in the same circle of friends, all very arkward.

My YD has a lovely bf. Just recently got together. I don't feel the same angst and worry.

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ajandjjmum · 02/01/2012 11:43

You know you have to let her sort it and make her own mistakes, don't you? It's flippin' hard watching from the sidelines though!

Silence · 02/01/2012 19:48

yes - don't interfere just listen and give her chocolate and build her confidence. hope things improve.

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boredandrestless · 02/01/2012 19:56

For a teen (i'm assuming she's a teen) it sounds like she is being quite mature in how shes handling it. Try to back off and offer support in a low key way.

alemci · 02/01/2012 20:19

yes she is 18. She isn't eating and has gone to bed. really upset for her but she is doing the right thing. He is a bit immature I think and swayed by his friends.

However I think she is going to a do next weekend and decided not to take him so at times she is similar. They both seem to be very sociable people

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percysgirl · 03/01/2012 16:45

She's being very mature about the whole thing so try not to worry too much. Just let her know that you're there for her to listen if she needs it - obviously her friends will be told much much more than you, but you're "just" the mum! lol. Boys are much more immature at that age than girls and perhaps your daughter is beginning to realise that. Hmm
Good luck x

alemci · 03/01/2012 17:38

Yes I think so. tonight she is going out with another male friend. I think they are still 'together' as the photos are up on the wall so I assume they are still texting etc. she wants him to make it up to her.

I think she is playing a game though and showing she doesn't care.

It is really horrible as you get to know the boys. It is not something I find easy.

YD has her bf round who wants to stay for dinner but he is older and alot more sensible.

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