Grrr am so angry with teenager

[argghh]

Please god let him grow up soon - have had enough.
Having not tried hard enough in school and repeated 1st year of AS and managed to get low low grades I said he had to leave school and get a job.

He has been working for a company that supplies the company I work for with phone services. He gets a temp position with them and yesterday (after 4 weeks) gets given notice due to his 'lack of interest'

I am so extremely angry with him, its the final straw for me.

He is selfish and self centred in the extreme.

Luckily he had a permanent job in the pipeline which he should start soon but if he blows that I think he will be practically unemployable - what do you do to make them grow up and start behaving responsibly ???

I won't be surprised to find myself in this situation in the future - dd has some very unreasonable ideas about the world of work.

Did he tell you the reason he lost the temporary position or did you find that out? If he told you, is there some heart to be taken from that - was it with any apologetic tone? Can you work on that?

Sorry, not much help - you can only try to be straightforward and point out how they maybe limiting their future. The big problem is that their future impacts on yours doesn't it?!

Can only offer sympathy really - hopefully he's had a bit of a "shock" and will apply himself properly in the permanent job.

sympathy from me too op.

ds has been a right pita since 15 a few years later he is just about,just about starting to grow up.
that's what we keep calling it, his younger sister and i - when are you going to grow up?
imo this is what the problem is - he seems to be a bit embarrased by this comment and whereas shouting just leads to both of us shouting at each other this comment does seem to make him stop in his tracks.

He tried to make out there wasnt enough work but admitted they had said that he seemed uninterested. Then I saw the letter which said that they thought he was not suited to the work - and nothing about a downturn in the volume of work.

Hopefully it will serve as a shock - but I doubt it.

Still seething, the fact that people at work know he is my son and ask how he is getting on is also embarrassing as I am going to have the say the lazy bugger got fired

Yes, I understand the embarrassment bit - if I were you I would use the employer's term - " he wasn't suited to the job".

Sounds like your ds was also embarrassed though - trying to dodge it a bit - much better than a bolshy, 'don't care'attitude. I think that means there's hope!

He was staying at his Nan's last night and I told him to stay there until I had calmed down. But relented today and we had a chat and he was actually very upset.

He still needs to bloody grow up though.

howmany: I hope you are right and that there is some hope