What do i do 13 yr old dd and *friend*

[mrsjay]

hiya im a bit stuck as what to do , I usually stay out of girlie fights and squabbles with my girls dd2 is 13 and she has dyspraxia , she is doing ok at school has friends , they do fight and fall out as most teen girls do . However today my dd had a fight with a friend the friend called a RETARD and thick for doing a christmas project at school with the SEN department , dd was looking forward to it till the friend said pfft thats just for special people . Im so annoyed and angry dd2 said its ok , but ive a good mind to say to her mum , who would be horrified her daughter said this , or do i just leave it to sort its self out , help

I think I would be very tempted to speak to her Mum. Whether or not that is the right thing to do I'm not sure. Although I think maybe this girl needs to realise that certain things should not be said.

I would let the school deal with it: they will be far more experienced and professional than the other girl's mum and likely to have more of an impact. Make an appointment to see her tutor or HOY.

School, definitely. Speaking to mum likely to make it worse. Also, what happens in school should be dealt with in school. Plus you don't know what your DD had just said to the other girl!

Thanks i think i wil wait and see if anything else is said , i spoke to the girls mum this morning didnt mention it though , I was just so upset about it yesterday , if it happens again i will go to school

appreciate it being put into perspective for me