Teenagers:helpful comments

[Lastlegsmum]

Just wanted to say thank you to you all for taking the time to comment with your experiences and for posting your DS/DD problems. I've just joined-1st comment.

I took to Mum's Net feeling quite desperate (still am-huge problem-usual gut wrenching predicament) but feel hugely more comfortable about things now (CUD up with the Pet Hates of Teenager Antics page). As a parent I know I could not be alone in my trials, but there is nothing like communicating with others in the same/similar situations, to restore hope! I'll keep myself tuned in-thanks again.

lastlegsmum, we are all in this together, united against a common enemy - HORMONES! They are buggers, and some days you think "Im crap at this" and other days you at yourself on the back and say "Actually, I think I handled that pretty well". As long as they come out of all this as responsible adults who still want to hang with us occasionally, then we are doing OK!

That's it HattiFattner-thanks.

I found MN whilst looking for solutions to DD's latest crisis - she was then 13. She's now 18 and I'm still looking for solutions - even if the crisis changes weekly!!!

I'd like to know why no -one sat me down and WARNED me when I was deciding to have 4 children in 5 years

However I agree with all the above..I have had some great advice over the years and (shhhhh whispers in case I jinx it) mine seem to be coming out the other side of the hideous hormone years as HUMANS!!!!!! It's only been 7 years of hell....:D

It doesn't have to be hell you know. And be careful about attributing bad manners and unreasonable behaviour to hormones. Once you all start believing at some level that they can't help it, you are lost. They can, you know- think how well they generally behave for other people!

Just bcause they are teenagers and you're their mum doesn't mean you have to accept being treated like crap.

Did anyone mention being treated like crap seeker? I agree - that is unacceptable and there is no excuse. I think it's more than there hormones - and of course, lack of maturity - mean that they don't always look at things calmly and logically, and it's hard not to feel upset for them. And occasionally with them!

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