My DD has stormed out of our house declaring she will not return because a) I couldn't lay my hands on her homework in 30 secs (it took 2 mins) and b) I wouldn't give her a lift to school as it was raining (although my husband had the car and he was at the doctors). It was very fraught, shouty shouty and I'm sure she will go to a friends after school.
My dilemma is do I just let her do her thing, do I collect her from school, do I wait and then go looking when it gets dark? She has a group of friends who were the 'coolest' and 'hardest' she could find when we moved to the area last year, so I don't think they will be very sensible about it all.
I know I have a DD who is soft on the inside and trying to fit in, by being a person she is not, on the outside.
When this is resolved I need to think things through so it is me dishing out the punishments - being in control, as at the moment she is swanning around school very much in control, status on facebook very hurtful and me suffering.
Please help me -gently, with practical solutions!! Thanks.