my parents hate my sis bf what can they do

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my younger sis is 18yr and has been dating this guy since she was 17yr. Hes a few yrs older then her and my parents are completely against their relationship.Apparently hes into drugs and has cheated on her.It hasnt helped that my parents had somehow found out that he had asked to video record her in bed.We do not know whether he has given her drugs although it is likely.The thing is its got to the point where my parents have gave her the ultimatum of stop seeing him (which she refuses to do) or to move out (though my parents are unlikely to kick her out).Theres just constant arguing and lies. My parents are very worried and feel helpless. What advice or hope can I give them?

none as far as i can see shes legally an adult and therefore responsible for her actions. she knows whats hes like. she knows hes shaggin around - she will be treated like shit for a few years no doubt then leave him.

sorry - not good news.

the best thing for your parents to do IMO, is to make sure they dont put her into a situation where if things kicked off your sis would have no where to turn to - or run home to.

it would be awful if they kicked her out now, then he beats the shit out of her or something and she feels she has no one to turn to.

i would encourage your parents to encourage your sister to get her own place. help her search for a flat - is she working - can she afford it?

i mean as liberal as i am - i will not under any circumstances allow my kids to wonder in at 3 am if they are still living with me. becuase their pissed up antics would wind me up. i think at that age and for some time after they are oblivious to the fact that parents have a life too thanks you very much you selfish pissed up person.

so if finances allow - encourage her to get another flat. if finacnes dont allow encourage her to apply to council and housing associations for one bed or bedsit. at this point your parents can lie and say they are chucking her out.

then she will have to face the big wide world alone - and guess what council tax rent and any student loans are piority debt and theres no escape clause.

life will happen and she will wish she had her bedroom back

dont back her into a corner though or her pride may force her never to return.

the more she sees they are against him the more she will want him!!
Try and be positive about him and welcome him, she might see for herself what he is really like!

If he has given her drugs they could report him to the police

FWIW, I left home at 16 and moved in with a man of 26, My folks were dead against it, BF had long hair, wore only black and was a complete goth. I had gone from my little pony to pvc mini skirts and rubber stockings in 5 years-My folks were worried.
I tried to be upfront with them, told them that I was going to stay the night at his flat after our night out, they refused so I lied and said I was going to stay at a friends-they must have know I was lying but it suited them this way rather than having to accept the truth.
Anyway after 3 months I moved in with him, My folks took the attitude that they would support me, although never financially. I always knew that if it came to it I could go home and there would be no reprisals.
Anyway 10 years later long haired goth and I are married and have a son, nice house, good prospects.
Whilst Ma and Pa thought BF was into drugs, certainly all our friends were, they were wrong about his character-he is and always has been loving gentle and faithful, Just that from the way he looked assumptions were wrongly made. I distincly remember my ma telling me that it wouldnt last, that he probably was just after a leg over or had a bet with one of his punk mates.
This is just my story and im not saying that this guy your sis is with is the same worse or better, just that I was confident to go out into the world as i felt ready to do (wrongly or rightly) and knew that parental backup was there as and when i may have needed it.
I hope it all works out for your sis.

Thanks guys my view is also she has to find it out herself. If he truely is no good and if she really could do better then she will realise this in time. I guess the biggest worry is drugs as someone has told me that they had seen her down town and she had looked like she has taken something.I know she would never admit to it if she had. And it might not even been true.I just hope she comes out of it ok.