1st weekend of leaving dd home alone

[brightwell]

I'm just home from a weekend away, having left dd 17 home alone...I was aware she was having a couple of friends over. Re-cycling bin suggests otherwise and my coffee table is wrecked, damaged beyond repair. Dd is no where to be found, I've had a text to say she'll be home later....I'm hacked off with her. I know it could have been a lot worse....what do i do now...make her pay?

[Talker2010]

make her pay

In more ways than one

[ripstheirthroatoutliveupstairs]

Oh shit. I am having visions of myself in a couple of years time.
Hope it all went well.

[Theas18]

She pays for damage definitely and the question is, how hacked off are you that they had a party without telling you- it's the without telling that would really hack me off....

It could gave been a hell of a lot worse remember and it's all part if a learning experience for you all- eventually you a going to have to be able to trust each other again so don't go completely ape shit iyswim!

[BusyBodd]

Please listen before starting in on her. She might be as horrified as you about what happened and has learned a huge lesson the very hard way about why you don't have uncontrolled parties. We had this experience with DS when he was 17 and he has learned this lesson so well we didn't need to say anything more, and we went away this year with many assurances from him that there would be no repeat, and there wasn't. So she might come back all "What's your problem don't get me down" in which case you'll have to come down hard, but she might be hiding away dreading your wrath, and then she'll be relieved and penitent if you are gracious about it and you'll be able to move on well from that.

[brightwell]

She'll be paying for the damage...it looks like it can be rectified...who knows if she's learned her lesson, she's going to be home alone this weekend. I'm thinking about making her stay at my Dad's