Mixed sex sleepovers?

[Fairenuff]

I posted under AIBU to stop DS 12 having mixed sex sleepovers but might have been better to put it here. At what age did you/will you stop mixed sex sleepovers?

We did have mixed sleepovers at 16 or so. Nothing happened. Maybe it was just our weird gang, but it was fairly tame, although usually a reasonable amount of alcohol , there was never any funny business.

My Ds has a mixed group of friends ,boys and girls are allowed to just be friends

my dc has lots of male friends but as i say she herself says when at home they would just want to play on ps3 and pool or darts as we have those in the family room and the girls will want to do rom coms and chat , in the day they come over and usually they then play computer and stuff with her brothers , they are just friends but why would they need too be friends at 3am? i just dont get it i mean your supposed to be asleep anyway so why stay overnight they can come and go at a reasonable time, as it is i automatically have mixed if you like as my daughters there and her mates and her brothers mix so when he has two male friends stay its is mixed already but when ive tried in past at 12 the last time it was just plain silly with them all over excited the girls all get too giggly with boys there , and the lads show off and its just a nightmare and very noisy all evening, btw in my experience of quite a few lads as there getting older they hang around i the hope the "just mates" turns into more but not all of them i totally agree

My children have never thought that those youth nights at the clubs were worth going to. My 16 yr old has been using the bus and train for a couple of years now to go to Brighton and London with his mixed group of friends. They often crash out here afterwards ( not often using games consoles and watching comedies!) I suppose how much freedom you can give your children depends on where you live as well. We live in a village with great links into town, most friends are local or a short bus or train ride away which helps!getting off sleepover subject abit hehe!

i think its also down to how we oursellves were brought up and rules are often passed on some we reject as we become parents others we uphold as we deem them correct in our view its not that one person or the other is right or wrong but we have to go on our own upbringing, our own experiences and where we live ,they all play a part in making these decisions

Yes,no one said this parenting thing would be easy. You just have to go with your own feelings and do what you think is best for your children at each stage. No one is perfect and everyone does things differently. My sister and I have very different parenting styles but our children have turned out ok so far!:)

OMG, I wsa going to start my own thread but think I should be here instead. there is a tented sleepover in our garden tonight; 7 girls (mine is dd aged 15) and 2 boys, one of whom is the very new boyfriend of dd.

Should I panic? dd is massively sensible as are at least 4 of her friends, and the also parents of said friends. I am supplying pop and pizzas (yes I know they could have brought all sorts out there) It's only 5pm and daylight - will I be wetting myself when it gets dark? All their parents are in tacit agreement as they have dropped off here, and my friend who lent the tent hasn't said anything (she has 3 of her own teenagers.)

Someone tell me I'm not being foolish/naive/an idiot?
I will update in the morning, when hopefully all I will be providing is bacon sandwiches!!!

It will be fine, amigababy ,noisey,but fine