Chalk and Cheese

[mumsamilitant]

Hi All. Would like your opions on the following if poss.

My bf has a son the same age as mine, DS 13 and bf's son 14. Great I bet your thinking and so was I at first. Now a year later they are sooo totally opposite they dont want to do the same things at all. My DS wants to go play footie with the lads and bf's son wants to go shopping, my DS wants to watch action programmes, bf's son wants to watch Glee. Bf's son comes and stays a couple of weekends a month. Im finding it increasingly difficult to make my DS stick around and not bolt out the door to do things with his mates. He does as bf's son to go and join him all the time but he doesnt want to...

Ive just said to bf wee either plan an activity like piccys or the beach etc. or sorry, but I cant stop my son wanting to do his thing. Am I right?

Mind you then it does get a bit awkward to know what to do with bf's son!!!!!

oops "ask"....

Is BF boyfriend or best friend?

Either way, you can't make teenagers want to be friends. I don't really see what the problem is, it's not as if they are fighting.

My boyfriend. His son comes and stays with us. The problem is as stated

Why do you want your son to stick around? Are you sure that BF's son is actully bothered? Is he sad that your son has his own friends and activities, or is he happy to do his own thing?

just let each of them do their own thing, they don't HAVE to do everything together, surely?

Yes, thats what I thought. Will just have to tell boyfriend if my DS has something else to do then he'll have to take his one off somewhere. Just feel a bit awkward coz boyfriend relies a bit too much on me to be entertainments manager!!!!

If your boyfriend's son is seeing his dad for contact, then ideally they should be spending that time one on one imo. Why doesn't your boyfriend just spend that weekend doing stuff with his son?

I'm assuming your boyfriend doesn't live with you?