My son has been badly beaten up : (

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he's 18,went out drinking last night and has been beaten up,had his head stamped on : (

He has a black eye,his jaw looks twice the size,his teeth hurt and he has general bruising.

No police were involved and he won't get medical care,feel so worried,have given him pain killers.

Feel so concerened that something bad could happen,hemorage (sorry can't spell that) or he might collapse? he's gone out into the sun now,telling me he'll be fine,he has work tomorrow,what will they think when they see his face?

This happened to my brother a few months ago - posted about it on here actually. Tossers stole his money etc then kept on punching him for the sake of it :( Him crying on the phone telling me he needed help is the most harrowing thing I've ever experienced.

Could your DS be embarassed? Not that he should be but we had to force DB to go to A&E/police because he didn't want them to think badly of him - going out, getting drunk, etc. He was worried they'd think he was either weak, or a thug :( He is fine now but you really need to get your DS checked out - DB had concussion.

If he knows where it happened, there might be CCTV. Especially if he was out drinking - pubs ad clubs etc usually have something. My brother's attackers were caught by CCTV at the club, and quite often these people aren't one-time attackers so the police may have DNA (one who knocked out my brother's tooth left behind some blood of his own, now he's in jail). Worth a try?

So sorry this happened - hope your DS is okay.

So sorry this happened - hope your DS is okay.

Seconded. Very much in n a mum to another mum sort of way. I can imagine that you are both worried sick and heartsick, while trying to deal with the added layer of concern and frustration of not being able to make him do what would at least set your mind at rest from the medical perspective.

Big fat hug love. He might be large, but he is still your baby and this must hurt like hell for you.

hit the nail on the head fastweb,he towers over me but he's my boy...i am worried about his head alot but he's not and has dissapeared off now...i'm sure others think i should just drag him off to docs or be firmer but it doesn't work..he makes out i'm over-reacting,so i have to sit it out and wait

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I don't see how you can force him to go love, I could still (just about) pick up my nearly 11 year old and drag him if he dug his heels in, but by the time he is a teen I'm pretty sure I'm going to need a chair to stand on just to be eye to eye. If my son were a teen in shock, desperate to avoid any "dwelling" on what must have been both terrifying and humiliating, I doubt he would be his usual biddable self.

The only thing i can think of is maybe a call to the after hours service (NHS Direct ?) Explain that he won't come in, maybe they will give you an idea of what behaviors or symptoms you should look out for that require an ambulance being called (behind his back if needs be) ? It might give you at least the information and confidence to call in the cavalry if he keeps up his refusal but displays symptoms that are scaring the knickers off you.

Hi,update-he came in,had shower,went to bed,up this morning and off to work,his normal self...black eye not looking too great,have asked him if he has headache,feels sick,blurred vision,to which he said no,his jaw swelling has gone,looks normal again,hopefully he learn from this that drinking too much leaves you vulnerable and more open to things like this,still wish he would go to police/doc but he just won't.

and yes,he's 6 foot 2,i need a ladder to be up at his level!!

I think your DS is perhaps feeling a mix of embarrassment, fear and feeling too shamed to go to the police. He probably feels too that he should have been able enough to look after himself.

He was assaulted and this is a serious crime so it needs to be reported. If your son does not report it and thus lets them get away with it they could easily do the same to another victim and this time that person may end up dead.