Hello. I only found out about this talk forum a few days ago when I had a really bad day with my DD (16 yrs). It's going to be a long message. I know I will be alright (I have to be), but at times it's so so depressing and seems so hard to cope.
She has been very difficult for the last two years - it started with a very rude attitude to my husband followed by talking back, refusing things she was asked to do. Then it got worse and worse. Being late for school, calls from school, being nasty to her 11 yrs sister, verbal abuse to me and my husband. Since the beginning of this year she started going to parties and I know that she drinks and smokes. Her behavious is getting worse continuously. We tried to talk, being nice (yet tying to have a boundary), giving her space, walk out when things are really tense and bad, having a walk, having mum & daughter day out. There are times that she is almost connected with us again but we are losing control. She still goes to sleepover parties without telling us the address (she refuses a lift), extremely rude to us. If things don't get done as she demands she throws a major tantrum - verbal abuse, breaking things, trashing rooms. I am deeply concerned about her well-being. She might be in trouble, she might be just going through a hormonal change, also the stress she's got over the GCSEs are huge. She just doesn't seem to be able to manage her anger. This morning she started throwing things (inclding the toast she was eating) when I said that she's got to hurry to catch her train.
I'm frightened of her coming back. At the same time I want her to come back so that I know she is safe.