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Media GCSE tomorrow - DD very ill with gastric bug - What can I do?

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celestinelass · 12/06/2011 21:01

Hi all

Poor 16 yr old has just gone down with really nasty gastric bug that has hit everyone locally over the last week. I had it through the weekend and it was horrendous, couldn't get out of bed except to throw up or.....
She has a vital Media GCSE tomorrow at 1.45. Hopefully she'll be physically able to sit it, but will feel exhausted, weak and won't have done her final bits of revision.
Can I get a doctors letter to support and explain the expected drop in her performance?? Panicking!!

Thanks in advance for any suggestions x

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Schtum · 13/06/2011 11:02

Hi Yummy

DD17 (Year 12) did 12 GCSEs (2 early) and got straight As and an A for her Additional Maths (which is the highest grade - it's marked on the AS level scale and so As are not possible).

She's doing 4 AS levels despite school (pushy, academic) trying to get her to do 5 and will do 3 subjects at A2 (not 4).

I'm completely and fully behind this decision because:

A: She wanted to "have a life" in the sixth form - which she absolutely has (lovely boyfriend, part-time job, lots of extra curruculars) not just be a slave to her academics

B: NO university makes offers on more than three A2s. She may well be academically capable of going all out for the 5AS/4A2 route but what advantage is it to her? When the rest of the country is (mostly) doing 4/3, she would only have been spreading herself thinly/ diluting her efforts. Better to do fewer subjects and do better in them. She's hoping she'll have done very well in her AS levels.

C: If anyone ever finds themselves underemployed, academically speaking, there are always other things that you can do like the EPQ (which DD is doing) which is much more interesting to do and more attractive to university admissions tutors than yet another AS since it involves a much more (university-style) independent approach.

DD 15 (Year 10) is going through the same school so, like your's, is in the middle of a clutch of GCSE exams/modules right now. She also puts pressure on herself but not in quite the same way as her sister.

What route is your DD thinking of? Is the school lining her up to do 5/4? Does she have an idea of which subjects she wants to do yet? It can be hard for kids who achieve well across the board because they don't have any obvious weak areas to strike out. Makes choosing subjects difficult.

celestinelass · 13/06/2011 15:30

Grrrrrr!! Sorry back again!

Wretched doctor still hasn't got in touch. Starting to panic now. Will he issue a certificate??? Bit late now I guess, but feel incredibly worried that he will be awkward. Apparently he's been on rounds all day....visiting all the other DV cases....makes me wonder why he hasnt come to see us, given the circumstances?
I've been utterly led by the surgery's reception staff advice to not bring dd in, but now I wish I had.

If he turns round and refuses to issue a certificate.....he wouldn't would he??

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Schtum · 13/06/2011 15:44

Oh, for goodness' sake! I'm not surprised you're "Grrrrr!"

Call them again and jump up and down - you've held off bringing her in at their insistence. It's really important that she's seen for the sake of this exam.

I feel "Grrrrr"" for you!

Schtum · 13/06/2011 15:47

God... Four o'clock...

I'm sure he wouldn't refuse to issue a certificate. He'll take one look at her and agree that she's not in a position to be sitting an exam.

You can also stress that you called first thing this morning and that you've been waiting all day for him to come.

I'd also tell DD not to hesitate to lay it on thick how dreadful her symptoms have been if he asks.

celestinelass · 13/06/2011 16:29

I've just phoned again. Receptionist lovely, has sent him 3rd message......
Of course, now dd has stopped vomiting and is feeling a smidge better! So yes, I said to her, if he turns up or wants to speak to you for God's sake lay it on thick!!
Scary.....really would have liked to have had the certificate BEFORE we pull her out of a life crucial exam. GRRRRRRR!!

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madmummad · 13/06/2011 16:56

there are times to be polite and hang back and times to be ruthlessly focused whatever anyone may think. I would absolutely not be leaving this in the hands of the receptionist. Get your DD down the evening surgery wrapped in a blanket with sick bucket in hand. And if that doesn't work get the emergency doctor out before she feels better. And if he/she won't come out walk DD into a&e. Seriously, once she recovers over night it will be too late.

Schtum · 13/06/2011 17:16

madmummad may have a point, celestine

celestinelass · 13/06/2011 17:36

Yes I agree. Surgery is open till 6.30pm. DP is back with car at 6. Have asked DD to scrape herself together to go to surgery at 6.15 and stage a sit in basically! :o

Which bit of "She has had to miss a GCSE and will fail otherwise" has he not understood???

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Northernlurker · 13/06/2011 18:21

I hope you got the certificate. It's very poor that he hasn't been in touch really. This is important and it would hardly be a long visit!

Schtum · 13/06/2011 20:04

What news?

celestinelass · 13/06/2011 20:06

No we didn't get the certificate. Phone diverted to OOH service from 6pm so couldn't get through to anyone. DP didn't get home till 6.30, got to GP's at 6.45....CLOSED
From my point of view, the GP has 3 messages on his file from me to respond to. He didn't ring or visit.
So as far as I'm concerned, he's bang out of order and I shall be at that surgery at 8.30am tomorrow to demand that certificate.
At wits bloody end......

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Northernlurker · 13/06/2011 20:10

Oh dear - well don't worry. I'm sure he will issue the certificate - may already have done so and it's at the surgery waiting for you? If you have any hassle than ask to speak with the practice manager.

celestinelass · 13/06/2011 20:25

Will do, pretty sure I have firm grounds for complaint if he refuses to issue it.

Thanks

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Schtum · 13/06/2011 21:40

God Celestine....

What a bitterly disappointing experience. If you'd have know first thing this morning what you know now, you'd have got her straight down there, whatever they'd have said. You stayed away in good faith, on their say so.

Dreadful.

I hope DD is feeling more comfortable and that the worst ravages of this virus are subsiding but, very importantly, I hope she's not worried about the exam situation. I'd try to keep your worst fears off her radar. She doesn't need the extra worry.

I'm positive that Northernlurker is right. Get straight onto it tomorrow morning and you need the certificate as a matter of urgency. It is NOT your problem that he failed to make his visit yesterday and your DD is NOT to be disadvantaged by his inability to fulfil his commitments.

Try to let go of it for tonight though - nothing you can do for the time being.

Thinking of you and DD. Hang on in there...

celestinelass · 13/06/2011 21:48

Thanks Schtum
I have managed to keep my real fears hidden from DD. I know it will be ok because the doctor has definitely messed up here.
But before wine at 7.30 I was pretty stressed out at the doctors uselessness.
Will hunt him down tomorrow........

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Schtum · 13/06/2011 22:09

You really will.

Keep in touch...

ajandjjmum · 14/06/2011 09:27

Hope you managed to get it sorted this morning, and that your DD is feeling better.

Schtum · 14/06/2011 11:50

How's is she today?

Have you got the certificate?

Amaretti · 15/06/2011 16:07

Hope you sorted it out?

celestinelass · 15/06/2011 20:44

Hiya all

Would you believe....the GP only just called??!! Cool and calm as a cucumber, despite me stalking him for 3 days!

The certificate will be ready tomorrow. What a palaver!!

Thanks all for your support xxx

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ajandjjmum · 15/06/2011 20:45

Tell him, you now need stress medication for what you've gone through over the past few days!!!

Glad you've got is sorted, and hope DD is feeling better.

Northernlurker · 15/06/2011 20:46

Shock I trust he's dating it with Monday's date? Get the certificate in your hand then complain to the practice manager. I know this is only a paperwork thing but it is important to you all and you should have had to wait THREE days. I would be incandescant in your place.

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