whats gone tiffany? i have only just come back to this thread, and to be honest and very disappointed about the way you have all been talking about me whilst i have been away. to all those of you saying that i dont use the advice that i am given, yes, actually i do use it, and some of it has worked really well. like i stated on the other thread, there are other issues, but this one is the only one that isnt really being dealt with yet.
this morning when i said i wanted to kick him out, it was in the heat of the moment as i was very angry. he has just come back from a week at his dads house, and been good as gold there, and in the space of 36 hours of being home has come home late, and refused to go to school, i was upset and angry with him.
i understand that people have advised me that now might not be the best time to get a dog, and maybe that is the case, but this is something that has been a long time in coming, and the right dog for us has finally been found, yes its an awkward time, but if we dont make the jump, we might not find another dog that suits us so well.
to all those who have implied or stated that i am getting the dog for selfish reasons, no i am not, the whole family has made a decision that we all want a dog, yes i want a companion for the daytime, but the children are all agreed to taking an amount of responsibility, i have sat them all down and spoken to them about it today, and ds1 has agreed to come out on the evening walks with me.
its never been a case that i dont have the time to spend with him, more a case that when he has and is being vile, i dont want to be around him because he winds me up so much that its beginning to give me problems, including sleep issues.
thank you to all those who have given me good advice, both her and on the other thread, and to all those who have felt the need to dissect my personal life, including asking questions about my finances, i'm afraid thats just a little too personal, i dont want to discuss my business, my incomings and whether i can afford a dog, i didnt start any of these threads to do that.
please stop talking about me the way you have been, and as for 'the poor children' i can assure you that my children are anything but, for the most part they are very happy, even ds1 most of the time, its just when he is in a strop that he is difficult.
i have spoken to school who are going to get the school attendance officer, EWO and other agencies involved, and there is a social worker taking him out for a chat and a drink on thursday.