Is it ok to blog about my naughty 13 yr old

[desperatemumsos]

I am at my wits end with my 13yr old daughter. I have started a blog to document my daily struggles with her and to bascially vent my fustrations as i feel like i have no one to talk to. I dont know how to handle her I feel like I am getting nowhere as nothing changes. I also feel like giving up half the time and just fitting her with a contraceptive implant and becoming one of those free-parenting types. Though obviously I dont. I hope that by sharing my struggle, other people reading it will reply to posts, offer me advice, feedback and tell me their story etc. My dilemma is "is this ethical?" I feel like i am breaking some sacred code that i should be protecting my daughter during this naughty phase. Not blaring it to the world. But on the flip side I want help. I want support. I want other people out there to reaslise they are not alone. Sometimes it is sooooo hard to parent these children that I make mistakes and big ones. And i am sure everyone else does to. Obvioulsy I dont reveal personal info but I dont know if i am just storing up more problems later on if my daughter accidently stumbles upon it and guesses its about her. (there are no names on the blog)... what do you all think? Thank you :D (am off to bed now but i look forward to reading your responses tomorrow + please be gentle with me - my blog as devised in desperation)

It's a desperately bad idea, IMO. See the Julie Myerson debacle.

You're very unlikely to stay anonymous to people who know your family (or to your DD), and then you will have splashed her private information across the internet, possibly forever.

Post here on MN, to vent and for help from others, but name change regularly, so readers don't build up a complete picture of who you and DD are.

Good luck, btw.

You could also keep a diary, ie write down everything but don't post it online. You get the benefit of organising your thought on paper but don't compromise your daughters privacy.

It is incredibly hard to deal with teenagers, but unfortunately blogging can't be the answer, because anonymity is impossible. See also Belle du Jour for an anonymous blogger who was found out.

I understand why you want to express your frustrations and air your experiences, but it is massively unethical. Please rethink.

Please DON'T.Get a diary if you need to unload but don't put it up there for all the world to see. NOTHING is anonymous on the internet and your DD WILL at some point find it and your relationship will be seriously compromised.

I have had times when even posting on here (I have 4 teens and have quite a few teen problems.. anorexia, depression, wayward son) has been the wrong thing to do because what I have said has been taken the wrong way! Airing how you feel when really fed up is NOT NOT NOT a good idea...

Don't do it.

How would you like it if your dh did a blog about all your short comings? Or your colleagues? Or your sister/brother/mum when you were a teenager?

Desperately bad idea.

No, don't do it for all the reasons above.

No, don't do it. Write a diary or come online here as Maryz says. Your DD will hate it when she finds out. I say when as she definitely will. Also, as mary says, put in positive too, even though it can be hard sometimes, I know.

Just don't do it. It is a seriously bad idea and won't remain anonymous.

I don't really see anything that unethical about it, I don't have a problem with what Julie Myerson did, either. But obviously a lot of other people do have a problem with it, so probably best not to go there.

Have you contemplated how you would feel if, aged 20something she started a blog recalling all the ways in which you were unpleasant, or slovenly, or drank too much or were unfair etc etc ?

Don't do it. Bad idea.

God, no. What a nightmare for your relationship if she ever found it. Write it all down and keep it locked away/shred it, but don't do it.

No. Horrible invasion of her privacy.

Why don't people keep diaries any more? Hidden under your bed in illegible writing?

Thanks for ur input everyone action taken blog removed

Good, well done for listening!

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Have a and make yourself comfortable!