16 destructive daughter 16

[jade33]

drugs older boyfriends promiscuity and hateful,few real friends and these she treats badly she could be/do anything she chooses but she seeks the seedy side of life we have seen psychiatrist once but she wont go back. As soon as she thinks we are getting close to what goes on in her head she disengages i am desperate just trying to get her through GCSE's. She is unbearable to me accept when she is crying her heart out on my lap i dont know how to help her.

Hang on in there Jade33 - presumably if she has seen a psychiatrist in the past you've been in touch with CAMHS? Perhaps you could get some advice from them....or would she talk to your GP? I'd also speak to the school, it's a very good sign that she's still attending - I imagine there is additional stress at the moment with the exams etc. If she still refuses to speak to anyone about how she feels, then I'd suggest that you get some help for yourself - after all you're the one who has to deal with all the fall out.

Have you spoken with the school? They often have a pastoral care person who ime can be excellent at getting a teenager to talk things through. Sometimes mum is too close, but someone sympathetic, but not emotionally involved can have a really positive affect.

thank you yes the school and camhs are involved and have work closely with me. My husband [not her father] keeps me sane but she just keeps upping the game. I guess there comes a point when she has to take responsibility and I will just have to be there. Its heartbraking.