Reasonable?

[Foxinthewoods]

DD14 thinks I am being unreasonable taking her computer and phone at 10pm. It had been 1030 until she started sneaking back online and texting till midnight, so each time she does this I have taken time off. Is it too early do you think? Nightmare to get up in the mornings as it is, but now I've left her feeling upset and that I'm ruining her life. Never happy unless she gets her own way.

Am I the worst sort of Mother for doing this?

I'm thinking of making a list of instructions for her, so that it is very clear what the rules are. A bit extreme but she has a very selective memory. She is very very difficult to wake in the mornings, did use her phone as an alarm in the past which worked (she hates being woken by me!) but as I now cannot trust her not to text till all hours she has an alarm, which she turns off and then goes back to sleep. I have to be out of the house by a certain time, with her in tow so leaving her to sleep in and be late is not an option. Thanks again for all the recent messages, restores my faith in Motherhood, knowing it isn't just me.

We do the same with our 14 and a half year old. She is terrible for getting up in the morning, she can't be trusted to use her phone as her alarm, so we got her a little alarm clock. It goes off at about 6.15, she snoozes it twice, and is still in bed at 7.30!

She goes to bed at 10pm, but is often still awake at 11pm when I go to bed

Actually, I've remembered that when my two were younger, their mobiles went on chargers downstairs in the kitchen at bedtime and they could check them when they came down for breakfast in the morning.

They're 15 and 17 now though and I let them make their own discipline around switching their phones onto silent for the night. To be fair, though, they get themselves up in the morning without any bother - they're both (mostly) quite sensible...

My DD has to start coming off at 9.30 and be totally off by 10pm. It takes that long to say goodbye and close down. Her phone never goes into her bedroom at night and is on charge downstairs turned off.

She does moan now and again that she always gets up no matter what time she goes to bed, which is true. But I argue that although she gets up she's more tired when she's had a late night. She rarely disagrees.

yanbu.
Now, can anyone tell me how to quickly remove everything from DD's room each night, and put it back quickly each morning? DH solved the problem for a while by removing her lightbulb, I think I'm going back to that. Else she ends up staying until God-knows-hour reading or doodling or applying makeup or brushing her hair or .....

"ruined her life" hahahahahaha tell her you made her, and you can break her!

Cheeky buggers, anyone would think a PC and mobile were rights these days... who pays for it?!