My teenage daughter has gone to live with my narcisstic X

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Hope u can help. After two years of hell going through Family Court, my fourteen year old daughter is now living full time with her father. He is violent and still succeeding in hurting me by brain washing our kids. The Court tried to keep her with me but when she was it was terrible and she kept going back to her dads. He has told her that I love my younger daughter (10) more than her (in fact it is he that wants the older daughter - who looks like him, and not the younger daughter). I feel I have let her down but her behaviour was so bad and I was getting ill. She won't talk to me what should I do?

To be honest, given her age, the answer is not a lot.

If you try to enforce the residence order (which I presume you have), then the court is going to ask the Cafcass officer to make a new report on whethr your dd should be returned. If your dd makes it very plain that she's happier living with her dad, then all you're likely to get is a contact order which will be quite difficult to enforce.

All the above is with my family lawyer hat on. As a mum of a teenager, my advice would be to leave her to it. She'll soon realise that he's not perfect and may want to come back to you. You should try to focus on communicating to her that she's welcome back whenever she wants, and just meet with her as regularly as possible.

Hi
I have a 14yr old son who visits his dad in cornwall every school holiday, we live in west yorkshire and his dad lives in cornwall.
Cut a long story short, he was due back on sunday, i rang my son on sunday morn to se if he was ok and not to worry he would see his dad in a few weeks, I was then told he was not coming back and he wants to live with his dad, I was a complete shock and has devestated me, they has stopped all contact, all phones are off and I have driven down to cornwall and waited hours to see him. I have called police and they have spoke to my son who insists he wants to stay with his dad and his new girlfriend and her son who is the same age. I have driven back to yorkshire tonight to see a my solicitor tomorrow. I am in complete shock, Ihave brought my son up alone for the past 13 years and worked full time to give him a good life. Im convinced he is being brain washed but what can I do. If he wants to live with his dad then I will have to accept it, I am sure he will return as the grass is not a green as he thinks. I am heartbroken and am unsure what the next step is.
I love my son with all my heart and I simply do not understand how his father and his family can just expect me to be told over the phone that my son is not coming home and that I will just say ok.
I would very much appreciate some feedback. thankyou for reading and im sorry its so long winded.
Helena