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would you let your 13 yo dd go to stalk One Direction with two 15 yr olds she's never met?

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snowkitten · 25/04/2011 23:00

DD is totally lovestruck/obsessed with One Direction. She has Twitter pages dedicated to them and i can barely see her walls now that she has adorned them with pics of 1D. We saw X factor concert in Brighton and she saw them in the tour bus afterwards (cue screams and elation), she then went to Brighton Centre after school and saw them waving thru their window there. Now she wants to go to Barnes (ffs) and stalk them at their studios there. I have told her no as I feel uneasy about it but she is in bits and I feel terrible. She wanted to go with two 15 yr old girls (I know the Mum of one from primary school days) but she knows the girls from Facebook and Twitter and 'chats' regularly to them. I feel absolutely dreadful as she is devastated adn I am sure in reality she would be fine. What would you do?????

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GypsyMoth · 25/04/2011 23:01

nope. i wouldnt

Themumsnot · 25/04/2011 23:02

I have a 13-year-old. No way would I let her do this.

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snowkitten · 25/04/2011 23:02

Just to reiterate - I do know the Mum of one of the girls and spoke to her this evening but just feel that I am a horrid unreasonable mum as it means so much to my dd

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nailak · 25/04/2011 23:03

i would tell her to get a life

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snowkitten · 25/04/2011 23:03

I habe told her no but i just feel so dreadful - she feels her life is in ruins Sad

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snowkitten · 25/04/2011 23:05

Nailik - she does have a life - a really active, interesting life with loads of friends and diversions but she is besotted with One Direction.

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lemonsquish · 25/04/2011 23:06

She'll get over it. You're thinking of her safety, not being unreasonable. I wouldn't let her either.

EightiesEasterChick · 25/04/2011 23:07

Would an adult be able to go with them, strictly as a one-off? Once they realise how boring it is to hang around a studio all day then she might feel less inclined to hanker after it.

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snowkitten · 25/04/2011 23:11

EEC - unfortunately no adults available - I also have a 4 yr old son so cannot go myself - as the others are 15 (nearly 16) they are considered responsible enough to go unattended. Glad you are all singing from my hymn book though - I feel dreadful for my dd. I hurt for her Sad

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GypsyMoth · 25/04/2011 23:21

she'll look back one day and laugh about it....it wont damage her at all

MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic · 25/04/2011 23:27

I used to do this Blush I was banned from doing it too, but I'd go anyway and just lie about where I was going. It was a lot easier pre-mobile phones, I don't think I'd get away with it now!

Having said that, I wouldn't let my 13yo do it either, not with two people she doesn't really know well enough to trust implicitly. At 15/16 they're going to have different rules and boundaries than a 13yo, and are they going to stick to her limits if they get the chance to get closer to the band? At that age (oh god I hope my Mum never sees this) I would get bought drinks in hotels by band hanger-ons hoping to get lucky (they with us girls, us hoping to see the band - neither ever happen, we could look after ourselves but we took stupid risks sometimes)

Missred · 26/04/2011 03:40

No, wouldn't let my dd have gone at that age, not unless I or an adult I knew well was with her. Tough if she feels distraught, don't let emotional blackmail dictate your relationship with her.

saltyseadog · 26/04/2011 06:16

She'll get over it. You are doing the right thing.

cory · 26/04/2011 07:52

I wouldn't waste too much time hurting for her: all of us have dreams that cannot be fulfilled, it's part of growing up.

mandoo · 26/04/2011 08:07

Don't be silly you can't let her go and do this. In a few years time she will be thanking you for preventing her from embarrassing herself. Tell her she can do it when she's 16, by then one direction will have disappeared into know body land and she will have grown up a bit (hopefully)

mandoo · 26/04/2011 08:09

Maybe show her this thread. It will show that other mum's agree and your not being unreasonable.

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snowkitten · 26/04/2011 20:43

so, DD did not go - teh two 15 year olds did. no sign of One direction at teh studio - all's well taht ends well...............Thanks for you valued opinions. I didn't need them to make my decision - I needed them to validate that waht I was doing was right - many thanks Smile

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mandoo · 26/04/2011 21:21

Well done for sticking by your guns.

One direction were round mine having a cuppa Wink

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snowkitten · 04/05/2011 22:22

next time they turn up - let me know mandoo - my daughter will sell her little brother to meet them!!

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