My 13yo DD has been going through a difficult patch (to say the least) for the last few months. She has skived off school twice, and ran away once and refused to come home so I had to report her to the police as missing (she turned up at 11.30 that night).
My partner and I are due to get married next week (after being together for 4 years) and my daughter has decided that she is not coming and that she hates both me and her stepmum. She ran away last week after an argument with my partner over using the phone to call her boyfriend at 11pm at night. I backed up my partner and said that DD couldnt use the phone so now Im public enemy number 1!
My other two children DD (10) and DS (15) have a fantastice relationship with my partner and are really looking to the wedding.
DD has struggled a bit making friends since we moved house 3 years ago, and is now friends with a group of girls Im not keen on as DD tells me they drink and smoke and generally get upto things that 13 years old girls shouldnt. They all think Im a cow because I grounded DD after running away etc and took her laptop from her. She claims she is being picked on at school but her reasons for the bulling and her behaviour change everytime we talk about it.
DD says she doesnt want me to get married and that she is loosing me and that we never talk, so I said we will set aside time together each week and the two of us will go for a coffee and a chat, which at first she thought was a good idea but has since decided she hates me too much to spend any time with me!
I will be really upset if DD doesnt come to the wedding but am reluctant to cancel everything and upset my partner and other two children. Im trying everything I can (with schools help) to sort out DD's problems and get to the route of why she is unhappy but am running out of ideas!