lovley ds -v worried a bit

[dangbody]

lovely ds 14 intrested in mostly sole activities such as fishing - dosnt hang out with others just for company - prefers own unless intrested eg wd never kick a ball around just for company as lots boys seem to..however in hols he just wants to be round me all the time as a friend i guess -his sib elsewere doing stuff- we invite others round but as he lives in out of school area others often make it as frankly its easlier to be with locakids who can pop round rather than a hours round trip for parents which i do understand plus thay have ready made friends on door step.I do love his compnay but sometimes just want day in house in hols to do housework read etc no do do do which is hard if you want to keep and active boy of a screen or wd like to see dh without a third party without feeling guilty at leav ehim out.sometimes hes fine with this tho often fine but im bored rings in my ears too...does this sound familiar and if so any advice--

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I'd just get let him get on with it, personally. Doesn't seem like anything to worry about
Send him fishing and read your book!

mine was the same, didnt seem to need other people, quiet, very self sufficient within himself couldnt get him out and about the house for love or money nice boy helpful and kind and generous but didnt need other kids to talk to, he is now 19 and still the same, at uni and is a self assured young man confident in his own talents with a very small circle of very good trusted friends, doesnt drink or smoke,
my other son 18 on the other hand was/is such a social butterfly and fills the house with loads of other slim lovely teenagers of both sexes, experiments with everything lives life to the full
only 15 months seperate them you can never tell how they are going to turn out personality wise as long as you are teaching them to be thoughtful of others
my sister's son is the same as my eldest and is now 17
dont worry not everyone is the life and soul of the party and trust me the quiet ones are so easy :)

token woman - thanks so much !!- you hear so much about teens rely on peers -f riends are centre of world etc etc - i was assuming he lonely etc and there was something going wrongx

token woman - thanks so much !!- you hear so much about teens rely on peers -f riends are centre of world etc etc - i was assuming he lonely etc and there was something going wrongx

we do worry too much dont we? as long as he is happy within himself and you keep an eye on things some kids are just darn unsocialable

lrn2spell

Seriously, it's embarassing reading through some of these comments from supposed parents and seeing a wealth of spelling mistakes and whatever. I don't mean to sound like a complete dick, but... Jesus Christ, is it really that difficult?

There's nothing wrong with being introverted. My best friend is like this, finds socialising exhausting even though he enjoys it in small doses. He is a brilliant and lovely man, well respected and admired but just enjoys his own company and prefers small groups. It's just part of his personality. Your son sounds lovely.

oh, whoops. Tending to small person...

Don't worry about leaving him out. Explain to him that you'd like to spend time alone with DH. Maybe you'll be surprised by his understanding?

I have one like this too. However, I also have one who is the complete opposite and worries me even more. Sometimes I think we all worry too much! Ds1 is 18 and so pleasant, easy and focussed on his studies. Off to uni soon but has spent most of hols on his own. He's quite happy though. Does have lovely friends in sixth form and is going on hols with them soon (seems closer to girls though). He has never been sporty or enjoyed "laddish" company. Doesn't drink much or smoke. I really enjoy his company and will miss him when he goes away, but I do wonder why he isn't out and about a lot more!

Don't get me started on ds2 who is 15 and driving me insane with his "idiot" friends, drinking and probably smoking.

Enjoy your son, you won't know it until he's off and independent and making the most of his life without you! 14 is still very young. He will probably always be fairly quiet, but once he gets to 18, new opportunities will give him the chance to expand his horizons. Enjoy him!

THANKS ALL FOR YOUR ADVICEX- THINK I JUST NEEDED TO CHECK THINGS OUT..HE IS GREAT AND I DO ENJOY HIM ,WAS JUST WORRIED THAT HE WAS MISSING OUT.
EVLB- NO NEED TO CALL ANYONE A "SUPPOSED PARENT "-SHAME ON YOU. JUST RE SPELLINGS - WHAT IF SOMEONE WAS DYSLEXIC?PERSONALLY ITS SHEER LAZYNESS WITH MY SPELLING AND VERY POOR KEY BOARD SKILLS!!.I ACTUALLLY HAVE TWO DEGREES AND A POST GRAD QUALIFICATION AND A PROFFESSIONAL QUALIFICATION - I CAN WRITE BUT AM LAZY IN THIS WAY.HOWEVER,PLEASE DONT MAKE OUT THAT I OR FOLK CANT BE" OK" IF WE HAVE THIS TRAIT.I COUNCIL PARENTS WITH CHILDREN WITH LIFE TREATENING ILLNESS AND TERMINAL ILLNESS SO I PUT MT SKILLS TO USE ELSEWERE SO GET OFF YOUR LINGUIST HIGH HORSE PLEASE.

CAPS LOCK MAKES ME LOOK COOL

Pretty sure telling someone to get off their high horse is a bit hypocritical, especially after going on about having all those qualifications and then saying that you just /choose/ to be lazy when typing. I mean, seriously now. No one's going to believe you when you say something like that, yet fail to spell simple words like "doesn't".

Shame on you for trying to make me feel bad with the whole "dyslexic" thing, and then telling me that in your case you're just lazy.

I love to watch a good argument.

The twist with this one is that it's an anonymous seventeen year old facing off against an illiterate, lazy parent (who apparently has qualifications coming out of their ears) that they have never met in real life and will hopefully never will.

Just for clarification, I'm the teenager

I m not saying im worse or better ,but saying that I take offence when it is implied that i am a "supposed parent "or inadequate in some way just cos i choose to be a lazy typist and do struggle to spell.

In addition ,some people - me included-clearly!-can struggle to spell for medical reasons or just the reason i do which is a v weak area and one i am impatient and lazy with .( yes i did have to have my essays spellchecked!) BUT thay can be good at other things .for eg; whilst i have more than one degree i cant do maths or spell .

I chose to refer to my qualifications simply to back up that point, but equally could have refered to something else or another quality.

Inablity to spell does not make me a"supposed parent" and i simply found it offensive -that just cos i struggle with spelling you implied that i fall into that catagory.
We all have our weak and strong points i dont see why you got so angry really.
ps the capitals were a joke ...

evlbzltyr

Have you any advice for the op? or are you just being a twat

I really wouldn't worry as long as he is happy-they are all different.

@usualsuspect - Mostly I was just being a twat. My mum goes on this forum a lot, and it pissed me off thinking about people talking about their kids behind their backs. So yeah, I guess you could probably say I was deliberately being a twat.

@dangbody - I found the thread, no need to send me a link any more :) also - dude, it's the internet. Calm down. Seriously, if you react like this to someone simply showing their dismay that an adult would type in such a way, I'd hate to think how you'd react towards the other people out there who are FAR worse than me.

If adults are allowed to publicly express their opinion on the way that the younger generation is degrading in modern society, I think it should be perfectly understandable that teenagers who most certainly DON'T fit into that category should be able to do the same to adults. Sorry about being a douche, it's just that last week or whenever it was I decided to troll the forum, and I just happened across this thread. I'm probably gonna leave and never come back, this place is booooooring. No hard feelings? :3