dd2 - 12 year old running away...

[JuicyLucy10]

nearly 12...friendship issues... mean mother saying she must accept some responsibility in failing friendships...

very angry dd2...SHOUTING A LOT the last few days and i am sick of it!!!!
so she jumped out of moving car as I pulled up and nearly hit next door neighbors car.... then ran like the wind.

i left her to it. didn't say a word.

so she just texted apoligising....

1. am i mean
2. what do i say as we aren't moving forward

just wanted to add she has texted and i feel she wnts me to tell her it is ok which is manipulative...

but she isn't home yet....

I agree-get her home first-she needs the message that she can always come home regardless of how stupid.
When she does, insist on sitting down calmly. First of all go over why she must never react in that way again. Then listen to the problems and see how you can approach them together.
Good luck.

thanks everyone... she answered my return text immediately so she must have been waiting and then came home within 15 minutes.

Must admit its hard to think clearly when your mad but it was good advice. Oh says thanks to you too for making me see more clearly the priority.

I think that the most important thing is unconditional love and the feeling that however she messes up she can come home. At least she is safe and you can try and get through to her then. Sometimes people just flip and regret it-it sounds as if that is what happened.

I do understand what you're saying. My DD 14 is very moody. The last time we had words I told her to go away and not come back. This is after her quite often threatening to leave. Well, she took her coat off so quickly and moved back into the house, too. It's been about a week and so far we have got on much better.

People do say that it's because the DC feel safe with you that that's why they can say/do what they want. I kind of believe that up to a point, but where's the line between that and completely walking all over you and having no consideration?

It's so hard to keep your cool when it's all kicking off. I'm glad that she came back. perhaps you can talk to her at a calm time?