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Finding things tough with troubled teen son 17

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haycorns · 02/04/2011 20:25

You seem a friendly bunch, so I'm hoping someone can offer some words of support and any suggestions wil be welcome

Things are getting me down as I am at my wits end as to how to help my son who's 17.

He's always had behavioural issues , sometimes worse than others, but we've been through primary school exclusion, secondary school exclusion, just escaped 6th form college suspension. We've tried all sorts of alternative therapies over the years which have helped.

In the last few months things have got worse. managed to get this third CAMHS referal , when took him to the GP due to self harming.

Third time lucky, CAMHS have been very good so far. They are now wanting to assess for Autism, bu there is a 4 month wait. He has just started cognitive behaviour therapy this week. They are hoping to prescriibe Risperidone , which he was on for about 8 months when he was 13 and had to move secondary schools due to exclusion.
This is all good staff , (that perhaps would have been helpful when he was seem at 7 and 13.)

He has decided not to go back to college now, despite being allowed back as he has no friends there ( after assaulting one of his friends and abusing a teacher). He is doing some self study to do some exams in the summer. He is very clever. He hopes to be well enough to go back after exams ( 1 more year to go)

This week things got significantly worse. He assaulted a much younger boy at the youth group, without provocation and they ended up going to hospital with concussion.

I really don't know how I can stop him doing this. He will end up in prison. I worry abou the safety of peopl around him

He is suffering with depression since the incident at college.

Today he self harmed again. I just want to hug him , but he won't let me. I knew he has felt miserable today and I haven't been able to find anything to distract him or engage him in.

I just want to stop him feeling so bad and doing such bad things.

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brehon · 02/04/2011 20:58

Hi Haycorns

I've had problems with my now 16 year old son in the past re anger, low self esteem, among other things. Thankfully he seems to have settled well in College (finally). Have you tried contact Mind? They deal with teenage mental health issues and are helpful and non judgemental. You might even have a centre near you, you can search on their site for the closest. Either way email or phone them. Remember you are not alone.

haycorns · 04/04/2011 20:55

Thanks for your comments - I'll look into what mind do in this area

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