daughter excluded

[glitzygirl]

my 12 year old daughter has had 3 close friends since they were in primary school , theyve all gone to each others houses , parties , sleepovers etc , 2 out of the 3 girls have changed a lot since starting high school , they have been treating my daughter and the other girl not very well , my girl got fed up with this and has been having her breaks with some new friends at school she asked the pleasant girl to go with her but she didnt feel ready to move away from the set , this has been fine and all seemed ok i thought it was just a case of outgrowing each other , i have invited the girls to my house and they all come about 2/3 weeks ago and had a lovely time i was delighted things were going well. however the 2 who have changed have gone back to each others without inviting my girl or the other girl and now 1 of them is having a birthday party and invited lots of children except my girl . I CANNOT BELIEVE this girls mum would be so cruel and do this to my girl but hey ho i suppose not everyone is that honourable , any tips on how to deal with a situation like this , thanks for reading xx

If your daughter is making new friends then I think that its fine for her to move away from the old ones. In fact if they are not treating your daughter very well then I think that its a good thing that she is moving away from them. Its not neccesarily a nice process but one that happens with girls of this age, I suspose triggered by moving from a small school to a larger secondary school. On the other hand I drifted away from my two oldest friends at various points during late primary/begining secondary yet today we are grown and still in touch and I would consider them amongst my best friends. I wouldn't worry about it to much, support your daughter but don't be concerned about her friendships evolving as long as she is not being hurt.

thanks for your reply , thats nice to hear that you have kept your frienships going i hope this will happen with my daughter , i am one of these people who always wants a happy ending haha !!

Hi. I am new to mums net and seeking advice. My daughter 12 is having problems making friends. She was quite popular at primary school and continues to see a good friend at the wkend. However, they are in different schools now. My daughter won a bursary to a private school due to her academic scores. I am a single parent on a low income and the school she attends is an all girls and they come from very wealthy backgrounds. My daughter tries hard to socially interact but the girls seem so fickle. She just wants one close friend at school. I dont know how I should deal with this and sometimes feel guilty sending her to private school-although she agrees she wouldnt fit into mainstream either and likes being taught at her new school. How can she get a close pal when they all seem financially and socially poles apart. Any advice plz.

thanks maryz for your reply , i am really pleased shes making new friends and youre advice is really great , will invite new pals round soon thanks again x

Thanku. That means alot for taking the time to reply. Fingers and toes crossed she will make friends. :-*