This is my first Mumsnet post so forgive me if it rambles! My eldest daughter (12) has always been a dream child - out of my 2 daughters she's always been the good one. She started secondary school in September and literally within 4 weeks she's changed completely. She gone from telling me everything to grunting at me (if I'm lucky). She spends far too long on facebook in my opinion (so we've restricted it to 1 hour only on a week night) and texts constantly. She isn't a 'bad' kid just not the one I've had for the past 12 years. Tbh it isn't her that's the problem cos I think how she's behaving and acting is probably completely normal for her age, it's more the way I feel about it that's the issue. I literally feel like I've lost someone and am grieving. I feel tearful and am sleeping fitfully - I do realise how pathetic this all sounds (especially having read what some other parents are going through) but I just wanted to know if I'm the only one?