smoking

[expertspudmasher]

Help and advice needed. My DS has been caught by his Dad's partner/girlfriend with lighters tobacco rizlas tips etc when she was going through his jacket pockets and she has phoned me, his mother, to let me know and to deal with it. I should add that he is nearly 14 and chose to go and live with them fulltime last year. I have him every other weekend and one evening/night per week. My initial reation was fairly laid back as I believe this is something many teenagers do and I will obviously tell him I'm not happy about it and have decided to also tell him that I will be destroying any stuff that I find on him (or in his room) when he is staying with me. I want to know who got it for him and from where - or should I just leave this for his Dad and girlfriend to sort out?

my dd has started this......i told her my thoughts,and now ignore it!!

no money though

they will be getting it from friends,or in dd case,friends parents!!!

some hang around local shop intimidating adults to get them on their behalf....hoods up,acting scary.....i informed shopkeeper.

not much can be done....but i wont have it in the house,and i tell dd she smells! she kind of doesnt like that as her friend grew up with smoking parents and was teased about the smoky smell. so she doesnt want that.....so its tailing off now

Thanks for your messages they were both really helpful. Thanks for the warning over the joints i will certainly be looking out for it.

Your child, you should deal with it too, it doesn't matter who is the disciplinarian or who he lives with, you're just as responsible for caring for his health as anyone else. If he is smoking, be it tobacco or weed it is NOT 'something many teenagers do' and at 14 years old that is a serious worry.

It only takes one puff of a cigarette to become a nicotine addict...smokers didn't choose to be smokers, this is how all smokers start. I really don't understand the mindset of sitting back and doing nothing or not thinking of this is something that is life-threatening so deserves to be taken seriously - if it's not stopped now he will be trapped in the addiction.

Bear in mind with tobacco you are looking at a LIFE LONG ADDICTION - get him onto Easyway ASAP which is 90% effective in stopping smoking, even if he isn't smoking it will help preventing him smoking in the future, it's only a book or a clinic session, I'm sure that's well within your reach. With weed you're looking at possibly a gateway drug and something that itself is addictive.